Is this ok?

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My partner told me today that we’re not properly celebrating MD as he doesn’t think I fully embrace being a mum. I think I do, I love my kids so much. But I also have a life outside of them. I guess this is wrong?

I would be handing him his arse with shitty comments like that. Arse.

How odd. Not sure what kind of man could be so arrogant to make such a proclamation. Certainly not a good one.

This is far, far, far from OK.

Your partner is an arsehole, OP. A horror.

Erm… is he normally so awful? Thats not nice, I hope your ok

Ummm this is not ok. If he would like to discuss your parenting style this is a nasty way to raise it.

Does he “fully embrace” fatherhood? I’m guessing not.

Did he specify exactly what he thinks you are not doing to full embrace being a Mum.

Bar serious neglect, whatever he thinks it is, he's a dick.

I'm assuming there are other things going on in the relationship? This isn't something a loving partner would say.

I mean I go out once a month with school mums and also see some old friends every few weeks. I don’t think this is excessive is it?

He is a great father, in fact he never goes out or really does anything away from the kids

Stop questioning yourself here, you're perfectly reasonable. He on the the other hand sounds dreadful I'm afraid.

He’s not a great father, great fathers don’t make shitty comments to their child’s mum.

No he’s wrong, it’s very healthy to have a life outside of being a mother.

But he does 50% of the house stuff. So not sure I can ask for more? Perhaps I just tone down the partying 😝

Well you could ask for respect.

And for him not to talk to you like that and to pull his head out of his arse and respect you as a mother and actually bother to do something for Mother’s Day. Other than making shitty comments to cover up lack of effort.

Nothing wrong with having an identity/a life, outside of one's children. I mean, it's all about balance at the end of the day.

So you've posted here, everyone is telling you he's wrong and you are backtracking and making excuses for him. Yeah that's a super unhealthy relationship OP.

@BiIIiee but he shows me he loves le and we are really sexually compatible

This isn't even real, no way your responses are that of a real situation! This seems more like someone bored posting for a laugh.

Assuming this is real and unless you are omitting something ie you don't ensure your kids are washed / fed/ up in the mornings etc (if that's part of your agreement - I appreciate it might be his responsibility ) then he's being completely unreasonable and it's not ok
Your social life sounds very normal. If he chooses not to ever do anything sociable or go out then that's his choice. It shouldn't impact on yours and you shouldn't need to curb your life outside of the DC just because he chooses not to.

If you need to ask if this is ok then you need to consider your relationship

Just like a few others posted today. Either they’re having a laugh or it’s a coincidence that some downtrodden, passive wives have turned up today.

what 😐

That's not healthy......

No, he's really not a great father, to be a great father, you also need to treat the mother of your dc with respect, so he can fuck right off

I bet he told you he was a great father eh?

My God he would think l am terrible then cos l go out weekly with friends.
Absolute cock!