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Is this ok?

43 replies

Catbumfomo · 11/03/2024 00:02

My partner told me today that we’re not properly celebrating MD as he doesn’t think I fully embrace being a mum. I think I do, I love my kids so much. But I also have a life outside of them. I guess this is wrong?

OP posts:
Frumpitydoo · 11/03/2024 09:15

It's very rare something truly shocks and horrified me on here, but you have OP.

LuckySantangelo35 · 11/03/2024 13:00

YABU op

you should not go out with friends or do anything for
yourself ever again. That’s what being a good
mother means.

blah blah bullshit

do you think anyone on here is actually gonna tell you that?

pinkyredrose · 11/03/2024 13:02

Well isn't he a pompous arse!

Does he honestly believe that 'fully embracing' being a parent means having no life away from your DC?

OfficerChurlish · 11/03/2024 13:04

Is it school hols in the UK now?

clpsmum · 11/03/2024 13:07

Wtaf are you with this scum bag? Bb

clpsmum · 11/03/2024 13:07

Catbumfomo · 11/03/2024 00:07

He is a great father, in fact he never goes out or really does anything away from the kids

And there lies the problem. He's jealous that you have a life outside of the home

clpsmum · 11/03/2024 13:07

Allofaflutter · 11/03/2024 00:09

He’s not a great father, great fathers don’t make shitty comments to their child’s mum.

This

WhatFlavourIsIt · 11/03/2024 13:27

Frumpitydoo · 11/03/2024 09:15

It's very rare something truly shocks and horrified me on here, but you have OP.

Yep, same. The quality of the bullshit posted has really gone downhill. At least the made-up shit used to be funny.

Catbumfomo · 11/03/2024 13:47

Sorry, I am real. I guess I’ve just never been without him really. You’re all right though

OP posts:
Allofaflutter · 11/03/2024 15:15

I’m sorry that this is real. But start asking for him to stop with the shitty comments and insist on him valuing you as a mum and get him to do a md next Sunday instead.

Worried86 · 11/03/2024 15:20

Wow, it sounds like he’s a sanctimonious manager putting you on a PIP for not “embracing company culture” or some such shit!

Since when did being acknowledged on Mother’s Day become a reward dependent on giving up your entire life in service to your family?

KreedKafer · 11/03/2024 15:22

Your husband is an abusive, manipulative, controlling piece of shit. What the fuck does he know about being a mum?

This is not OK. This is so far from OK that I'm stunned you have to ask.

LuckySantangelo35 · 11/03/2024 15:51

Sounds to me like he’s just jealous you have a social life and he doesn’t

mondaytosunday · 11/03/2024 15:51

How suffocating for your kids. What's he going to do when they leave home?
It's far healthier for you to have interests outside the family.

Topjoe19 · 11/03/2024 16:09

I'd never be able to forgive that. And I'd never touch him ever again. Who does he think he is?? He knows nothing of what being a mother means. Prick.

coastalhawk · 11/03/2024 16:44

Punishing you for having a life and not fitting his obviously very narrow idea and unrealistic idea of 'mother' ? Very off. Would be asking for an explanation and put it all back in him with questions.

ObliviousCoalmine · 11/03/2024 17:20

Catbumfomo · 11/03/2024 00:07

He is a great father, in fact he never goes out or really does anything away from the kids

That's not the definition of a great parent.

CurlewKate · 11/03/2024 18:23

Great fathers model good relationships for their children. Even if the parents are separated, great fathers model how that's done. He's not a great father.

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