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To ask a post about something very shallow? Upper lip hair…

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ComingUpTrumps · 09/03/2024 11:58

I just wanted to ask how you all deal with upper lip hair. Very superficial post, I know!

I do stuff like thread my eyebrows, have leg waxes and shave my armpits, but I’ve never done anything to my upper lip hair, mainly because it’s something I’ve never really noticed.

I am very pale and fair-skinned, so any hair I do have is quite fair and light. I thought that would be the case with my upper lip hair. I really don’t think it’s that noticeable unless you come up very close to my face.

I’ve just been thinking about it more since I went for an eyebrow threading session the other day, when the woman who threaded my eyebrows asked if I also wanted my upper lip hair done. She’s someone I’ve been going to for ages and is very nice, so I think she was just being polite by checking to see if I wanted to get my upper lip hair waxed, and obviously she’d notice it because it’s her job to notice it and to ask about it.

Since I’ve never thought about getting it waxed or anything, it made me a bit paranoid and made me question whether I should do anything with it.

What does everyone do with theirs? I’m just a bit worried that if I start waxing it or whatever, that I’ll have to keep on doing it otherwise it will grow back thicker. You can probably tell that I don’t know much about it, and my main concern is that if I start doing anything to it that I’ll just have to continue that for fear of ending up with a big moustache 🤣 which I definitely don’t want 🤣

To add another (maybe irrelevant?) thing into the mix, I’m single at the moment but looking at getting back into dating, and now I’m nervous that when/if I meet someone, they’ll notice my upper lip hair and comment on it.

Going off on a big tangent now, but I’m quite low maintenance with my appearance. I like clothes, but don’t follow fashion, mainly due to not earning enough money to do so. I make sure I’m clean and presentable, of course, but I never really wear make up, out of not really knowing much about make up and also just not wanting to spend much time each day putting on make up and then taking it off again. I’m nervous about the idea of being with someone who likes women who wear lots of make-up and who always look perfectly camera-ready (e.g. women you see in the public eye on TV and in the papers), because that’s not me.

When I’m a bit down about things, I generally make less effort with my appearance (which I hate admitting!), and I think the pandemic and its legacy has been a factor in this. More recently though, I’ve felt more motivated and energetic generally, so I’ve cared more about my appearance and and health and this has been positive and helpful for me. I just want to maintain that.

Sorry, lots of food for thought in this post actually!

OP posts:
TakeOnFlea · 09/03/2024 12:03

Use a removal cream. It'll literally just wipe off and it doesn't grow back thicker.

The Boots own one is fine

Trickabrick · 09/03/2024 12:04

I had laser hair removal, was so worth it.

Caroparo52 · 09/03/2024 12:05

Threading

Scattercushiony · 09/03/2024 12:05

Use one of the face razor thingies. Takes 10 seconds and not a hassle

BobbyBiscuits · 09/03/2024 12:06

I never used to do anything, but now I pluck the hairs, they are mainly at the sides, and not that many. But they look quite noticeable to me if I don't. I also have a couple of beardy hairs I have to pluck as well.
Everyone is different. There's no need to do anything if you have never felt the need to before, unless the hairs seem darker/ more prominent now?
Some bleach, some wax, some thread. Some do nothing. My Mum is lucky and barely has any hair on her face/ body. I have a lot of bodily hair but not so much facial hair.
So, there is no right or wrong to it! I'm also very low maintenance and rarely wear makeup like you.

Eyesopenwideawake · 09/03/2024 12:07

I run a dry razor over my "peach fuzz" once a month or so, works perfectly.

lovemycbf · 09/03/2024 12:09

Trickabrick · 09/03/2024 12:04

I had laser hair removal, was so worth it.

Op has fair hair and laxer doesn't work on fair/red hair unfortunately

lovemycbf · 09/03/2024 12:09

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scorpiogirly · 09/03/2024 12:10

Facial wax strips

WestendGrrls · 09/03/2024 12:15

If its not something you have ever noticed or been bothered by, I would do nothing. You probably don't need to remove it. The beautician was probably just trying to upsell. Don't take it as an indication that you have a noticeable 'tache.

If you really are bothered now and feel you need to do something, I would not recommend creams or shavers as the hair will grow back with a blunt end and not feel soft. I found wax was too harsh and damaged my skin, drawing more attention to the area. For years now I have used a little epilator stick that you can buy for a couple of quid. It's a little spring that you swipe over an area and it pulls the little hairs out. Here is one from Amazon but if you shop around you might find one cheaper. I think Primark used to do them for a pound.

TRIXES Facial Hair Remover - Spring Epilator Tool for Quick Hair Removal - Effective Threading Alternative https://amzn.eu/d/iBx8iCv

Trickabrick · 09/03/2024 12:16

lovemycbf · 09/03/2024 12:09

Op has fair hair and laxer doesn't work on fair/red hair unfortunately

So did I but it still did, they did warn me it might not but luckily it’s been fine. Worth having a consultation OP to see.

DavesSpareDeckChair · 09/03/2024 12:53

I went for a consultation with a beautician who offers both waxing and electrolysis for the top lip. In my case she recommended electrolysis, and also recommended a local anaesthetic cream for it.

HelenDamnation1 · 09/03/2024 12:55

Oh my god, just no to the razors and shit.
Op if you're fair just leave it, please don't start shaving your face.

Chilto · 09/03/2024 12:56

If it’s dark you can bleach it. If light I’d just leave it

FinallyFeb · 09/03/2024 13:00

I use this, I received it in a beauty box subscription.

I have had threading and like that too but my new gadget is great as I can use it at home whenever

To ask a post about something very shallow? Upper lip hair…
Waitingfordoggo · 09/03/2024 13:01

I didn’t do anything about mine for years but it began to get a little thicker and darker as I’ve aged. I used wax strips for a while but then my skin began to react to them so now I use one of those little electric face shavers. I use it on my eyebrows too and the one thick chin hair that keeps reappearing. It does NOT cause hair to regrow thicker.

I wouldn’t do a wet shave like a man does because I think it’s normal to have some hair on your face and I don’t want to be completely smooth (I absolutely hate the feel of completely shaved skin). But the electronic shavers do a good job- they don’t remove absolutely everything so you’re still left with some very fine, fair short hairs.

Echobelly · 09/03/2024 13:01

I've had an issue with this since perimenopause started! Pale skin and hair, so laser won't work for it IIRC (only on dark hairs) but it's still noticeable. I've been using microplaning blades - couldn't make wax strips work at all, depilatory cream OK, but I'm finding microplaning blades a reasonable solution.

I saw this the other day and wondering if anyone's tried it and if any good?

https://www.jmldirect.com/nuyou-facial-hair-remover-fast-easy-pain-free-removal-unwanted-facial-hair

Waitingfordoggo · 09/03/2024 13:02

And if you decide not to remove the hair, any potential date who has an issue with the fact that as a normal human being you have hair on your face, that will just help you weed out the wankers from your dating pool.

goingslightlyinsane · 09/03/2024 13:03

FinallyFeb · 09/03/2024 13:00

I use this, I received it in a beauty box subscription.

I have had threading and like that too but my new gadget is great as I can use it at home whenever

Interested in this. Can I just ask, does it make it grow back thicker??

pallyloo · 09/03/2024 13:04

My wax my own upper lip with the face wax removal packs you get everywhere takes 2 minutes literally.

waterlellon · 09/03/2024 13:05

If you're getting your eyebrows threaded anyway then I'd ask for the moustache to be done at the same time. Might as well

Passthepickle · 09/03/2024 13:08

Nothing makes hair grow back thicker although shaving blunts the hairs so they look thicker than the tapered natural end. The episticks are amazing!

NeedToChangeName · 09/03/2024 13:09

Facial wax strips

DaveOnTheTrain · 09/03/2024 13:11

I do my own dermaplaning. I have PCOS and whilst it's blond, my face gets a bit fuzzy 😅

Needtofixmyageingskin · 09/03/2024 15:00

I've had mine threaded a number of times. It does grow back but not worse. Haven't had it done in years now...thanks for the reminder!

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