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Would this annoy you?

55 replies

nosign · 09/03/2024 10:07

Husband gets you a gift for birthday. Handed in the packaging it came in the post.

No gift wrap / bag.

Just in the wrapping from the courier, not opened yet

OP posts:
susiedaisy1912 · 09/03/2024 10:08

No not really.

Hoglet70 · 09/03/2024 10:09

He sounds like my DS. I can guarantee thats how my Mothers Day present will come tomorrow. I just laugh. At least he remembered and bought something. If you read half the threads on here, 90% of the DH's in the world wont have bothered at all and there will be worldwide trauma on Mumsnet tomorrow!

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 09/03/2024 10:09

Not at all. As the poor ... that get nothing or garden shears, cups and plates etc. Some people just don't realise how lucky they are

Justhereforthechristmasthreads · 09/03/2024 10:09

Sorry no. I know it is nice to make an effort but the gift wrap either ends up in the bin or recycling anyway and isn't part of the gift. It had probably arrived later than he expected.

MasterBeth · 09/03/2024 10:12

Yes, it would piss me off.

SevenSeasOfRhye · 09/03/2024 10:13

No, I would judge the gift, not the wrapping.

KimberleyClark · 09/03/2024 10:13

No not really. My DH wraps Christmas presents as they are on display under the tree, but birthday/valentine/anniversary presents just get handed over in the gift bag from the shop where he bought them.

Original poster
nosign · 09/03/2024 10:14

I got something because I sent a link to something or it would have been a candle from the supermarket at the last minute Grin

I know I should be grateful to have something. Of course I do. I just wish there would be a bit of effort

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SpeedyDrama · 09/03/2024 10:14

Ah this thread will absolutely be full of ‘at least he tried’ responses. Because men actually remembering basic things is commendable in itself, the very idea of making a presentable effort is laughable apparently…

Id be pissed off as well.

clpsmum · 09/03/2024 10:16

Yes it would it's very lazy

Nothavingfunrightnow · 09/03/2024 10:17

I'd definitely be fucked off at the lack of effort and I'm very miserly when it comes to wrapping paper, cards etc!

Talipesmum · 09/03/2024 10:17

Yes it would - it’s the bare minimum of effort. Only if it was v late arriving and I needed it straight away for some reason, or perhaps if it was v bulky or hard to wrap.

Divebar2021 · 09/03/2024 10:17

Yeah I would be pissed off. How difficult is it to put it in a gift bag? You don’t even need to tackle a roll of paper and tape ( which we all know is excessively difficult for tiny male brains )

awitchoftroubleinelectricblue · 09/03/2024 10:18

No. I'd be happy to be given a gift and it's the gift that matters, not the wrapping it comes in.

3catsandcounting · 09/03/2024 10:19

Yes, it bothers me. I've had gifts given to me still in a plastic vacuum packed bag. Apart from the lack of thought, it just cheapens the gift. It doesn't take much to make something look like its a bit of a treat!

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 09/03/2024 10:19

No packaging doesn't bother me. It seems silly to wrap something up, only did if to be removed again...waste of time.

However, only getting a present ecsuse I sent him a link would mildly annoy me.

A thoughtful present where effort is made to pic something I might like is appreciated but no I don't care if it's wrapped or not

MassageForLife · 09/03/2024 10:19

It wouldn't bother me - but I'm guilty of having done this before myself.

The item arrived late, the recipient was there when it arrived, so it seemed a bit pointless to go through the motions of gift wrapping it.

Mumof2teens79 · 09/03/2024 10:20

I have done this. Its not lazy, it's just running out of time and being busy.
And wrapping/bags are really a waste of money.
I will reuse a bag if I have one, or maybe put in a nice reuse carrier or paper bag.
It depends on the circumstances but no it wouldn't bother me.

Yawnnn · 09/03/2024 10:20

It's lazy and thoughtless but no it wouldnt bother me

Luddite26 · 09/03/2024 10:21

No I think wrapping paper is a waste of money and for the environment. Nice that he got you something.

DrJoanAllenby · 09/03/2024 10:22

My husband isn't keen on wrapping gifts but he would certainly open the packaging and check that it is what he ordered and then he would at least make the effort to wrap in some tissue and put in a gift box or bag.

pictoosh · 09/03/2024 10:22

It wouldn't/doesn't bother me...I have been given gifts that way before (mil and dh) - but the gift is usually pretty good.

MrsSkylerWhite · 09/03/2024 10:22

No. There’s too much waste.

AtomicBlondeRose · 09/03/2024 10:23

Yes, it’s lazy. We have a good stock of paper and recycled gift bags - takes seconds to pop it in one of those and present it like you give a damn.

The way a person does something is the way they do everything = this is a lazy, low effort person. Not someone to spend a life with.

Berlinlover · 09/03/2024 10:24

You sound very ungrateful, it wouldn’t bother me at all.