My parents think I am crazy who is being unreadable.

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so I know I will be probably jumped on and this is extremely outing so I changed names.

we recently lost my DP, and life has been one huge rollercoaster. I have 3 DC in the house ( 1 with health issues, 1 with sen )
I had already decided to relocate from London to Scotland ( where family is )
and it all went fairly smoothly in terms of selling and buying.
the house I purchased was significantly cheaper, than our previous house mainly down to location. We also received a life insurance policy and I had some money in savings.
I am on maternity leave at the moment but not planning on returning and will take an extra year off work.
we have struggled to find schools and so both are currently home schooled.
so I say one night looking at holidays, working out how much money I could afford and if travelling mainly around the uk with a few abroad trips thrown in would be possible for the entire year.
youngest is too young to understand and the other 2 are happy with the plan to travel for a year / take a year out of life.
my parents think it’s ridiculous, and it’s just me having a life crisis.
if you could, would you do it ?

Yes, I would do it. And it's really nobody else's business.

So sorry for your loss.

I guess the 'con' is you've already had a lot of disruption in your lives, but maybe a pro is 'might as well have some more' given everything. Nothing's going to be normal for a while.

On balance I'd say that if you can, you should. Would you be homeschooling your kids during this time or taking a break from it? And how old are they, as that affects things.

Sorry for the typo
breast feeding, hugging a toddler and typing all at once 😂

So sorry for your loss.

If I could afford it and it worked for me with kids ages etc then absolutely!

Sorry for your loss op. If you’ve weighed it up, thought about it, if you can figure it out in terms of having access to all your children need, then I’d say go for it x

They are. They sound mean and judgemental. You have lost your partner. Plus you have at least 1 very young child (hence why you are on maternity) and a child with additional needs. Plus a big house move. Have they actually given you any help or support with all of this?

Absolutely go for it. Give them an adventure. Travelling has been wonderful for my SEN child and opened up the world to them in so many ways - wish we could do it more. Am sorry for your loss.

Mine are
10, 5 and a young baby.
( toddler is my nephew from previous comment )

I was widowed youngish. Do what you think is best because believe me, there will always be someone telling you that you are widowing wrong and there is actually no right way, just what works for you and your kids.

I’m sorry for your loss 💐

I would book one trip for now, are your parents worried that your kids need more time to settle?

I suppose it depends on the children. I lost a parent when I was a similar age to your eldest, and what helped me was predictability and continuing with school and my normal routine.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Part of me thinks "don't make big decisions whle grieving". Yet I also kind of think if you have the means to do it & you feel like it's the right thing for your family at this time, then do it.

Ultimately, you know what is best. Ignore your parents.

@Uricon2 I am learning that.
Everyone expects you act in a certain way.

No I wouldn't because I'd feel vulnerable supporting 3 children on my own and would want to hold onto the money for security but I'm not you, if that doesn't worry you, go for it.

I think you can do what you think is right, but I don’t think there is anything wrong with them mentioning an alternative. I personally think that settling down into a new school and routine might be more beneficial than a holiday, if I were close enough to you I might say so, but of course I also know it is your decision.

You know you and your DC best. A close friend has a DP who has a life limiting illness and they similarly are considering a year out travelling with the DC. This may change when the time comes but that is current plan.
Do what ever you feel best helps you, don't worry about other people's opinions as that is all they are. Until someone has walked in your shoes they can't determine what is best for you.
Sorry for your loss.

It's not crazy but you'd need to think very carefully about how you'd do it.

How would you travel? Where would you stay? Is a 10 and 5 year old sharing a room with their mum an and a baby who may wake appropriate? Will the 10yo want their own space from baby & 5 yo, would this be possible in your accommodation?
Where would the schooling aspect of homeschool take place. How would you do that with a toddler and no childcare? How would the children form social connections?

Why did you move closer to family in the first place if you don't need any support?

I would, your 10 year old can join P7 and transfer to high school with their class (assuming you’re not continuing home schooling), and the 5 year old will catch up. Any assessment needed in terms of your child SEN can be done in P7, many local authorities won’t do it much earlier for transfer to high school anyway. The curriculum here is much more forgiving than in England and they’ll have support to fill any gaps.

Travelling and having time as a family will do you the world of good and you won’t get this time back again. I’d do whatever I could to help you all recover from such a loss.

I wouldn't. I think your children need stability and it would be very difficult for you to manage to educate and entertain and take care of three children while you're on the road. I'm really sorry you lost your partner but I don't think you should make a quick decision about anything like this right now.

Sorry for your loss.

I know someone who did something similar, and in very similar circumstances. It was some years ago, the children are adults now. It involved more foreign travel than you seem to be planning but, looking back, she regards it as one of the best things they did. The children grew hugely in being exposed to unfamiliar things and it gave them a certain confidence and widened their understanding of what's possible in life. Obviously everyone's different...

@maryberryslayers yes all the accommodation I have looked at she would have her own space. Education wise prior to living her attendance was at 30 percent but she is not behind academically at all.
she is a dream child tbh in terms of behaviour.
we wouldn’t be travelling daily and I mapped it out so the driving time is consistent between one place to the next.
it will be more of a weekly move on and s few hours each time apart from the 2/3 holidays abroad.

Will your child with health issues still be able to have their medical needs met, will you be able to meet any health costs?

Have your parents explained why they are against your plan? If they could explain that at least may help you to avoid some pitfalls.

i home educate we are unschoolers. kids have never been in school
do you home educate or home school? as that's what you wrote but people say home school meaning home education
legally and proper terms they are different concepts

my kids are 19 and 13 both have rare disabilities and need 24/7 care

oldest is obviously out of it but mentally 15,youngest mentally 8-9 so oldest still gets involved

our dream was to drive all of the uk in a converted van(you know these type of van lifers) we were looking in to it in 2020 but my partner went and left us

i don't drive, i just need to pass my test as ive been having lessons and have a test in apr
other wise i would have done it myself

what im getting from your post is hotels which is ever better

cruises do trips months at a time

i would be telling your parents firmly your money ,your kids, your choice end of discission

you could always come back if it don't work out after a few months

in terms of her health issues, it does mean taking additional stuff with us but I am able to do it anywhere. Most of her appointments can be done over the phone apart from specific ones which are all due very soon and then not again for 6 months.
her main supplies would be delivered weekly to wherever in the country we were.
if she needed acute medically treatment then it would be the nearest hospital. Hope that makes sense.

@ALPHAFEMALESINCEBIRTH yeh I looked at motor home but then looked at uk holiday parks places like that and if looked easier for us to drive short hours and stay in actual accommodation. :)