To be absolutely fuming.

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A week before we go abroad...my neighbour sent her kid over to play as usual. After sometime she came downstairs to tell me and my partner she's just had a covid test!!! (WHAT). It was negative apparently and that made it okay even though they said they have a bad cough but it's not covid. Sent her home.

My child and partner were then struck down very ill, my partner being the worst. Few days later it hits me, only for me to be in the emergency Dr's yesterday with a infection deep in my left lung.

I am absolutely fuming. They had the cheek on the weekend to knock my door for her to come over. I went bananas. Only for her mum to message I double checked her covid test but negative so just a cough.

WHERE IS THE COMMON SENSE WITH THESE PEOPLE. I am going over later to tell what their actions have caused and to use their two braincells next time. Especially as they KNEW we are going away!!!
This isn't the first time as last year I'd send her home when they had Covid in the house for the response to be "yeah but 'the family member with it' is staying upstairs.

Give me strength

So this is nothing to do with covid, but they let their child visit while sick and you caught it? That's crap. If a child is sick then they shouldn't be mixing with others and spreading it around. If any of our family is ill we stay away from mil as she gets sick easily and certainly wouldn't be visiting anyone. I'm not surprised your fuming

For the record my sister bought her dd round once with tonsillitis and my 1 year old caught it, my husband was fuming

I’m confused about the covid stuff and was the child actually unwell when they came over or just the parents?

Awful timing with your holiday, I’d be so annoyed too but is it something like your kids are at school together so already mixing in the same germ pool so maybe they didn’t see how there would be any extra risk from them coming over to play, especially if the DC wasn’t unwell themselves?

Nothing to do with covid. Did the child appear ill? If they did you could have sent them home. If they didn't then do you think the mum had a crystal ball?

What age is your child? If he or she is school age then in fairness they could have picked up something there.

I think the covid part is relevant on the basis that the neighbour clearly realised that there was something wrong in order to have thought a covid test was negative. I think the OP is annoyed that a) she sent the child over having done a covid test, so clearly thinking there was a possibikity of covid, and b) because she clearly knew there was a risk of some sort of illness, covid or not, because she thought a covid test was necessary.

I think I'd be pissed too.

Why would you go round? Want to get more exposure to the germs?

Awful behaviour on their part.

I think sometimes you have to be clear with people that you don't want to meet up, have playdates etc if they/their kids are ill.

You see a lot of ableist nonsense on here (and irl) about how germs "build your immune system" and it's fine to expose people as long as you don't have a fever etc ignoring the fact that for lots of people a "mild" cold can knock someone with even something as pedestrian as asthma out for weeks.

I'm so sorry you're so ill and going on holiday. I hope you get better soon.

"Hi neighbour, we've all been very ill since you sent your DD round whilst she was unwell and coughing. As you know, we had a holiday coming up and it's really frustrating that we're going to spend it ill when it was completely avoidable. In future, please do not send dd round when she's sick, covid or not, we'd prefer not to catch any avoidable colds and viruses as they affect everybody differently, and this current one has left us all pretty floored."

YANBU my brother and sister in law absolutely wind me up when they bring their daughter round with various illnesses, a few years back myself (who is hardly ever ill) and my mum who was probably late 60s at the time were so ill with D&V after they had once again brought their ill daughter round instead of staying at home. One time they nearly came to visit knowing she was ill with something known to be very contagious and I had a new baby, I put my foot down and told my mum to tell them not to come as they could make her (my mum) very ill and I am certainly not bringing my baby to catch it, she took a lot of convincing and of course I was the bad guy but I just don't understand why these people don't just do the right thing and not knowingly spread it in the first place (especially to vulnerable people).

Don't go round and make a fuss, you'll just make yourself ridiculous. You absolutely don't know that that is where the infection came from, and there is every chance that you or the children picked it up from school, work, shopping, commuting etc.

I would also be a little annoyed, but we must think critically before starting on people on their doorstep.

The incubation period for these things means that it's incredibly unlikely, an infection "deep in your lung" would of developed in less than a week from exposure. Your family could of also picked up the preluding virus from anywhere, especially with school aged children. She was tested for covid prior to sending her child which shows a level of responsibility that a lot of people don't show. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Your entitled to your boundaries and you have already asserted them, so to go round and carry it on based on what is actually a loose assumption, is out of proportion.

Some people are just scum and have no consideration for others. At least it's obvious now - tell your child they are to have nothing to do with this family anymore and ignore any further contact with them.

Yes, because punishing the children for something the parent did (or didn't do) is lovely non scummy behaviour 😂

You beat me to it!

Sorry to confuse. Theyve been brought over in the past with covid in their household.

They're negative for covid this time but still coughing a spluttering everywhere.
Yes it could have been caught anywhere but her being over here with a cough, the parents saying NOTHING and then us catching it is still absolutely out of order

As for going over, I see them regular. I'm not going over like a screaming nutcase but more, next time do not send them over knowing full well they're ill and when we're about to go away. Use your braincells and keep them away!!!!

I'm sorry? She came downstairs after playing and announced she'd had a covid test. She was sent over by her parent with a cough and without them saying NOTHING about it. Obviously I wouldn't have let her in if I knew and she was sent home straight away.

Not sure what you mean about crystal ball? Surely you have the braincells to know most won't allow a sick child in their home...

Someone told me they had tonsillitis while holding my newborn baby. Yes, people can be very stupid!

People get sick. Sometimes they pass it on to others. If it's very important to your family to avoid sickness at any particular time, you really need to adjust your own life in the period leading up. So not have people round. To be honest though, unless you also intend to stay off work, keep the children off school and avoid all public places, you'll have your work cut out. Even then you have a good chance of catching something on the plane. Do you remember pre covid, when illness was just considered bad luck, and we didn't immediately look around for someone to get mad at and cause drama with over it? I miss those days.

No it wasn't covid but surely the fact that they felt unwell enough to do a covid test is enough to not send your child out to the neighbours.

You do know that covid is not the only transmissible illness don't you

She didn't invite the kid round, she was sent there, knowingly ill.

Twice.

There's a difference between unavoidable illness (i.e on a plane, at work) and sending an infectious child round to someone's house when you know they're going on holiday. Surely that's obvious?

THANK YOU.

how do people not get it 😅

It's Mumsnet home of the deliberately obtuse "cool mums" 😂

Are you still going to get on your flight when you’re all coughing and spluttering?

Or are you going to be applying the same caution you feel entitled to demand from others?

”Going bananas” because a child came to play with a cough just causes more problems than it solves doesn’t it?

you should of just sent them home when you heard the bad cough that the mum said they had if you were worried.

kids have coughs, snot and sniffles all the time don't they?

Christ if I kept my child incubated in the house every time she had a 'cough' she would never see the light of day.

Yes if they're ill, temperature etc fine. But kids cough and sniffle all the time.

I'm guessing then you won't be getting on public transport or a plane then, if you're still under the weather?