To be absolutely fuming.

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A week before we go abroad...my neighbour sent her kid over to play as usual. After sometime she came downstairs to tell me and my partner she's just had a covid test!!! (WHAT). It was negative apparently and that made it okay even though they said they have a bad cough but it's not covid. Sent her home.

My child and partner were then struck down very ill, my partner being the worst. Few days later it hits me, only for me to be in the emergency Dr's yesterday with a infection deep in my left lung.

I am absolutely fuming. They had the cheek on the weekend to knock my door for her to come over. I went bananas. Only for her mum to message I double checked her covid test but negative so just a cough.

WHERE IS THE COMMON SENSE WITH THESE PEOPLE. I am going over later to tell what their actions have caused and to use their two braincells next time. Especially as they KNEW we are going away!!!
This isn't the first time as last year I'd send her home when they had Covid in the house for the response to be "yeah but 'the family member with it' is staying upstairs.

Give me strength

Wow are you always this aggressive?

Are you popping to your kids schools to check no one in their class has a cold?

You certainly sound like you need a holiday.

By this logic illness is not unavoidable at work, or on a plane, as those who feel ill should be quarantining at home.

what’s the difference between a child attending school with a cold, going round to a friends with a cold, or a colleague turning up to work with a cold?

either you get on with life and accept bugs and viruses are a part of that life, or you insist anyone who isn’t 100% well stays at home so as not to infect anyone else.

if o/p has caught this illness surely she should intentionally be getting on a plane and knowingly be potentially infecting everyone on it? That’s much worse than one kid on a play date.

Were you keeping your kids off school for the week before the trip?
Otherwise its just a standard risk with kids and you knew this family had form, so if you feel that strongly about preserving health before a trip, you should have declined the playdate.

We have to work, or go to school. I never said anything about quarantining at home.

There's no guarantee we'll
encounter people who are sick at work ot school in the few days prior to holiday. It's a chance we take. Some of us take extra AL or a few days off prior to going away. Some of us still wear masks on public transport. Some of us don't have kids. Some of get our shopping delivered before a holiday rather than risking the supermarket or avoid large gatherings. For me, that's been pre holiday life since 2011 because that's what my Endocrinologist advised - no post covid hysteria.

I wouldn't send an ill child to someone's home to play. That's really selfish.
I'd prefer it if I was told prior to my hypothetical child going round to play at someones house that the other kid was sick, because I'd reschedule.

Sending an (uninvited) guaranteed sick kid round to someone's house to play, knowing that family were about to go on holiday is an utter dick move. And it was completely avoidable.

And if you're too hard of thinking to see that, I can't help you.

Completely agree with this.

I would think you were nuts.

Blimey, the world and his wife have a cough and cold at the minute. No eat of knowing where you've picked it up. Presumably the dc have been at school where numerous kids will have been coughing.....

You say “sick kid” but it’s worth acknowledging that primary age children particularly at this time of year, have constant colds and coughs and it doesn’t make them sick. They still attend school, socialise and carry on as normal. They aren’t locked away.

Its just as likely op’s dd had caught this particular cough earlier from this friend, from school or in fact anywhere else before playing with her mate. It’s unlikely for a virus or infection would immediately develop the next day.

I thought after the pandemic we’d stopped the angry finger pointing and appointing blame when we got ill with a common cold or cough.

Op has probably damaged a nice friendship between her dd and friend by “ going bananas” and talking to the mum like shit.