Background: I have a 2yo and a young baby, currently doing pretty much everything with the baby as I’m on ML and he’s EBF so would be doing night feedings anyway. I sleep in a room with baby, who wakes 2-3x a night and I’m a crappy sleeper, often awake from the last feed so I’m constantly tired. DH works FT and has been doing most of the nursery pick up/drop off with 2yo but as child is a great sleeper DH gets 8-9h mostly uninterrupted sleep. I spend all day (and all night) with the baby, who is pretty laid back but it’s still knackering being constantly ‘on’. 2yo strongly favours DH at the minute, which DH knows leaves me feeling rather rejected at times.
I wanted to check with DH whether he had planned anything on Sunday as I wanted to also organise something with my own mother. I get a ‘not that I’m aware of’ and it transpires he knew MD was coming up but had not bothered to find out when it was. I told him I was a bit hurt he couldn’t be bothered to check the date, nevermind think about doing something, and was informed he’d have figured out it was MD by the weekend. He’s now asked me if there is anything I would like but it’s not something I particularly want to have to plan, it sort of defeats the object if I plan how to celebrate myself! Last year I organised a surprise picnic for fathers’ day despite having terrible pregnancy nausea.
I’m having a bit of a rough time atm mentally-I’m a bit up n down emotionally, not quite PND but definitely not myself, mostly due to tiredness and also my 2 best friends being utterly rubbish at communicating and being there for support (dreadful comms is a very long term problem for both of them). DH is aware of all of this.
AIBU to think DH could have given this more thought knowing how crap I feel atm?