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To think this is too much to ask elderly GP’s?

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PickledTuna · 04/03/2024 17:47

DH and I have been invited to a weekend away. DH has asked his parents (early 80’s) to look after DS 5 and DS14. DS14 is very good and will help with DS5. DS5 has ASD is quiet, needs help with independence/road sense. GP’s are active, independent and will drive a long way to look after our children. However there are quite a few things I do that are second nature (e.g always hold his hand if I walk onto our front drive/along the road/keep him away from swings in park etc) which I’m not sure I can expect GP’s/ DS14 to religiously do? DH and I will be about an hour away from DS’s.

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hellsBells246 · 04/03/2024 23:55

PickledTuna · 04/03/2024 20:49

Trusted friend is a possibility, plus a payment through activity : except the two people I can think of there wouldn’t accept any payment - and have a lot going on themselves.
DS14 is probably the best to look after DS5. Toileting, eating, recognising thirst are all things DS5 struggles with - but DS14 is really good with him. I do think the main issue is the GP who would intervene, overrule, and not see the danger in certain situations : and DS14 wouldn’t have the confidence to stand up to that,

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Ah, in this case, no, I wouldn't.

Geppili · 04/03/2024 23:59

"They’ve never looked after DS5 before.." No.

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PickledTuna · 05/03/2024 09:42

Thanks to all who commented - I really appreciate it! After talking to DH, we are wondering about leaving for event at about 11am and coming back for about 11pm as a possibility. DH also thinks they would stay in house if asked, if we explain about concerns about DS’s lack of road sense.

I think DS14 could be given payment for the extra responsibility. DS5 can’t really express his needs to less familiar adults - but DS14 understands all his cues.

I can leave crafts, activities, arrange a take away…

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