To ask for some positive stories on unexplained infertility

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I'm 29, hubby 36. We've got a child together, they're just over 2, conceived first month. TTC #2 for almost a year, unexplained infertility, had all possible fertility investigations, about to start IUI first cycle. AMH is 11 so not great for my age. I woke up today completely deflated and just feel low all day because I don't know if we'll ever give DC a sibling. Unsure if we will afford IVF, and even if we can afford 1 cycle, will that be enough? I know it's pathetic, I should be happy we've got DC. Any positive stories, statistics or hope to cheer me up?

Anyone?

Hi

One cycle of ivf can be enough if you ever go down that route.

I had unexplained infertility for 5 years. One cycle of ivf and had one daughter.

good luck with everything.

Thank you, can I ask how old you were? Was it unexplained infertility?

We tried for almost 2 years while I was in a stressful job and had nothing. I moved jobs to a very friendly and chill workplace and got pregnant more or less accidentally while I was still in my probation. Stress is the only thing that changed for us. Annoyingly the stressful job had a much better maternity leave package!

I had unexplained infertility. No birth control for 5 years and actively trying for 2. Used clomifene and conceived after all maner of investigations.

I really hate the term unexplained infertility as it’s used almost as an actual diagnosis when really it’s just means ‘there is a reason but we can’t find it’ (I’m going through it currently on cycle 30 secondary infertility).

I said to my consultant that I can’t just go away and accept it as clearly there is a cause and I want to isolate and treat it so I’ve had to push for more tests

when I was married we were told it would be very unlikely for us to have children. I had every test known to man and we were just about to start ivf then we split up . I totally stopped thinking about ever having a child and did take my eye off the ball . I met someone new and fell pregnant with my son . It’s really odd as my ex husband went on to have a daughter . Maybe we just weren’t compatible

What tests have you done / what more did you push to do? Wondering if there's anything else I can look into

Like a couple of PPs we had unexplained infertility and must have tried for 4 to 5 years.

After about 2 years we started having tests and went through all sorts of checks, did the tracking temperature thing to find the best time, various scans etc.

I had a laparoscopy which showed I had endometriosis and a resulting cyst on my ovary. Had medication and eventually surgery for that. After the op I was told that they didn't think the endometriosis was severe enough to have been the cause of the problem.

By then we had run the gamut of all available tests (this was nearly 30 years ago) so we're told the only available option was IVF.

Anyway, one cycle of IVF was all it took and I became pregnant with DD.

I was 32 when I had the IVF and 33 when DD was born. DH is nearly 5 years older than me.

I wouldn't class it as infertility but it took us 14 months to conceive DS. I was one of those annoying people who had tests as it had been a year, relaxed about it all while waiting for results and got pregnant.

I have always blamed the pill to be honest. My cycles were irregular for months after I stopped it and I'm not convinced I ovulated every month.

I had bloods to check for ovulation, thyroid blood tests and an ultrasound. I then had a HyCoSy. Dh had a SA and bloods.

I wasn’t happy to just be sent away as it seemed like a case of ‘there’s nothing else to check so off you go it’s unexplained!’ Type attitude.

We have now decided to have a more in depth SA where they check for other things too (I think it’s fragmentation and culture) plus I’m getting a test done to see if I have coeliac disease as I have some symptoms and it can cause fertility issues, I also think I could possible have endometriosis so am thinking of getting an operation to check for that (it can’t be seen on ultrasound)

i have a great one

im 43 and never had a period ever, i have severe PCOS and was told at 17 i was infertile

i developed early as i was a D cup at 9 and 6ft by 11, i just never started my periods

ive only ever had the one boyfriend, we met when i was 18 and he was 17 in 1999
for both of us we were firsts(sexual and romantic)

as i was told i was infertile the year before we never used contraception(to this day i couldn't tell you how to use a condom)

got pregnant in 2003,only knew because i developed extreme sickness the week between Christmas and new year and though it was food poisoning
i was so ill i went to the doctor and they made me do a test even though i said about the infertility
turned out i was 8 weeks i did have hyperemesis gravidarum through out the whole pregnancy
son was born in sept 2004(4 day labour)

2nd son was born end of July 2010,he took 4 years of clomid tablets, still never had a period so couldn't take them the first day of period as normal i just took them different times of the month as told

i was doing weekly pregnancy tests and fortnightly scans to see if any eggs were being released

told no for eggs on the last scan but 2 weeks later i took a test as normal, i did it on a 3 for a £1 pack from Poundland (i went through so many of these) and it was very faint so i did the clear blue one and i was 2-3 weeks
complete shock

i went massive early, at 14 weeks i was showing, i had deep scans for twins as i was so big and baby was so big doctors said i was weeks ahead of what i said i was, i knew i was right
i knew why when he came out (8 days late in my estimation,13 hour labour)
he was born massive 11lb11oz and 29 inches, natural birth but horrendous labour

2013 we wanted 1 more but nothing happened
NHS wouldnt do IVF as i conceived naturally twice and we didn't have that type of money and they wouldnt fund and more clomid
ive tried all herbal remedies over the years

ive had all sorts said about miracles and gods gifts but as a atheist that doesn't wash will me

even at 43 i would love another one but partner left us all in winter 2020(for my ex friend) after being together 22 years, we were still technically still trying and ive been single ever since
it did cause a emotional breakdown that im slowly recovering from but that's another story

so if i can conceive 2 kids naturally with out ever having a period i have hope for anyone

@SoyaMilkLatte we did the fragmentation test! The result just comes back as a % but what I can say is that it correlates with SA results - when my husband's SA improved due to lifestyle changes and we redid both the SA and fragmentation they both improved.
(His SA was never horrendous, just "okay" and then "great" after lifestyle changes, which we only did to boost our chances)

I was told our infertility was unexplained (my AMH was also quite low). Tried for 7 years including 4 cycles of IVF. No luck.
3 months after our last cycle of IVF we fell pregnant naturally.
Would love to give an explanation but I have no idea but it goes to show it can happen.
3 yearly later, I am pregnant again! We have been trying the for around 2.5 years

Like many of the previous posters we tried unsuccessfully for 4 years - we did 4 lots of IUI and must have tried every herbal remedy out there. All the tests came back normal .

At 37 I had one round of IVF which was successful! This was followed by 2 more children conceived naturally - something must have just clicked! Would say we did do acupuncture as well, did it help??? who knows but felt good to know I was trying all I could

It's a stressful time but stay positive!

A friend had unexplained fertility. Had one child by ivf and then the next two children arrived naturally.

NDN also had unexplained infertility then suddenly she found she was pregnant. Not had a second child but definitely no ivf for the child they have.

I had dc 1 aged 2 and started trying for a second. Had 3 miscarriages, all around 10/11 weeks. Had seen heartbeat at 8 weeks on one of them (others weren't scanned so early).

Had low dose aspirin for second. Had various tests, no reasons found

Pregnancy number 4 stuck (but had low growth and was born prem/small). Now happy (small) healthy year old.

A friend was 2 yrs older than you, also had toddler. Turned out to be premature ovarian failure but still had time. First round of ivf was successful.

Good luck op.

Id alsi add - had acupuncture for successful pregnancy and also took l-methy folate instead of folic acid.

Tried for three years, no contraception, took clomid. Nothing. Gynae consultant said "welshmum, you're unlikely to conceive naturally". Our GP offered to cover the cost of IVF medication, if we covered the rest of the costs. After thinking about it long and hard, we decided not to go ahead. Two months later I conceived naturally. Only I didn't realise, thought I was just a bit tired. Did a test a few weeks later....pregnant. Five and a half months later gave birth to a healthy full term little girl. Thought that was it. Didn't see the point of contraception - she was a one off. Wasn't she? 20 weeks later - pregnant with number 2, a boy. Might as well go for a third we thought. Nothing. Six years later....number 3, another girl. It totally can happen!

I spent 15yrs with the same man, miscarried 1yr in at 19. Left my ex and met someone knew, I'd given up on having any children as I Suffer with PCOS undiagnosed till I was 30. Never used birth control after 18. At 32 with my new man, no trying became pregnant with twins, they are nearly 1yr old. Sometimes it takes not trying to find the perfect moment and just enjoy each other. At least that's what I found.

We followed the advanced plan from It Starts With The Egg and it was groundbreaking. Pregnant within 4 months! I’m nearly 16 weeks along now and we’d been trying nearly 2 years.

7 years of unexplained I fertility here. Then had DD at 39. (IVF) Then DS popped along naturally when I was 41. Complete shock!! I call them both my miracle babies!
Good luck op

We were trying for 5-6 years before I had IVF at age 30.

We had all the tests but no reason was ever found why we couldn't conceive.

Luckily the ivf worked and then 8 months after our daughter was born, I got pregnant naturally.

My friend married in her mid thirties…three years of unexplained infertility later and IUI treatment worked first time.

They were content with their one child but when she got pregnant naturally, although she sadly miscarried, it gave them hope that another try might be more worthwhile than they’d imagined and she had their second baby a couple of months shy of her 42nd birthday.

Hopefully that give you some positive vibes…wishing you the best of luck.

We tried for another baby for 7 years. Tests on both of us. I had some fibroids but nothing major to cause it. We wouldn’t have gone down the ivf route as we had ds1. As DH was turning 40 that year we decided to stop trying. I’d finally got my head round having 1 child only. I went on the pill as my periods were all over the place and we had a big holiday coming up. 1st month of a regular pill induced period and I shed a decidual cast. Went away the following month, came back pregnant and our gorgeous boy was born 2 months after dh’s 40th.