Mother's Day dilemma

[sunlover1123]

It seems my partner has forgotten Mother's Day. He's mentioned that his brother might be coming over which in itself is fine but it's my first Mother's Day....

I feel like I constantly remind him of so many things, like he is another child....

AIBU for not mentioning it at all and then going off to the pub on my own early for a celebratory drink with baby?

I can't sadly be with my own mum as she lives away but I've seen her today and will send her some lovely flowers and a card to mark the occasion.

It's been a hard year and I'd like recognition for all the stuff I do to keep our family
Going...

He's mentioned that his brother might be coming over

Is he expecting you to be there, cook for his brother, etc?

YANBU to not be there! Make plans with your mum if she’s around or your friend.

In the morning, see if he has planned anything and if not, tell him you’re going out for the day to celebrate Mother’s Day.

And do nothing for him for Father’s Day! Celebrate your father if he’s around.

It’s a tricky one. It kind of depends how he’s been brought up and if it’s been a big deal or not in his household.

I actually forgot about it myself and just invited a friend for coffee next Sunday (she declined and reminded me of it!)

He might not know how you feel about it. Yes he should probably ask but don’t set him up for failure by not communicating what you want.

What does his brother coming over usually entail? An hour for coffee or a full day session?

To be honest, I think you'd be completely in the right to point out the importance of mother's day to you at this stage. Going further, if be doesn't immediately respond with reassurances that he was well aware and was planning to mark the occasion, I think you'd be within your rights to express your disappointment at him needing for needing to be told.

But don't sit and seethe silently for a week while setting yourself up for a disappointment. Yes he'd still be a prat in that scenario, but don't do it to yourself.