Opinion on grandparents

[Mumoneboy]

Our son has been really ill this weekend and we have been updating the grand parents. Yesterday they went for a nice meal with our brother in law and sister in law despite knowing that our toddler was sick and that we have a one year old too. Does anyone else think this is selfish? Should they have cancelled their plans? They didn't bother to ask us if we needed any help but were very eager to update them

YABU. They are allowed to eat and have plans.

I’m really sorry your child is so poorly. Could you ask them for help? Sometimes people don’t know you need help until you ask.

Hope your DC feels better soon.

Ignore the horrible comments.

Unless your child was on life support I would say yabu.
There's really nothing they can do if the infant is being cared for in hospital, apart from wait for news, is there?

I'm really confused as to why you think anyone has been unreasonable.

I think if you'd included the information about A&E and being admitted to hospital in your first post, people would have been a bit kinder.

I actually don't think you're unreasonable. Most grandparents I know would want to offer help if their grandchild was so unwell they needed hospital care - assuming they live close enough to do so.

I'm sorry you feel let down

If you'd been my daughter then I would definitely have asked if you needed me to do anything and then I'd have told you where we were going to eat in case the situation escalated. I hope your little one is soon back home x

Sorry OP actually cringing for you that it even entered your head to think that they were being selfish

You have a partner and 2 children - one parent to one child ratio

You are being entirely self absorbed and entitled

Why the need to be so nasty?

Her child has just been admitted to hospital after an A&E visit - it's not self-absorbed or entitled to think that their grandparents might care and want to provide some support

I think you've had a rough time here op, due to the not mentioning hospital involvement, but I imagine it depends on individual families.

My 15 year old is pretty sick at home at the moment, and MIL had my other child overnight, and both grandmothers have offered help, both to look after my other child and to go shopping for supplies etc. In your situation, both grandparents would definitely have been sharing care of our well child so that we could both be in hospital with our sick child, and my mum would've absolutely have asked me if I wanted her to cancel any plans she had and help out, or been at the hospital with me if I wanted her there.

I have had a sick 1 year old in hospital, and it's really worrying and hard. Even going to the toilet is difficult if you're on your own if they are poorly and get upset about being left alone, never mind sorting food for yourself, they are really short staffed. I hope everything is ok.