We’ve recently moved into a new house and DSD (16) has a great set up - effectively a downstairs with bedroom to herself with a bathroom and access to a pool.. All other living is upstairs. She lives with us full time.
My AIBU is that we’ve been here a month and she’s probably had friends around 20 of the thirty nights (at least). Not just one friend, but usually 3, and as many as six. They don’t always stay over, but frequently stay until 9/10pm. They aren’t lots of bother in general, but can be noisy and come up to use the kitchen etc. On the weekends I don’t care. But this is weeknights too.
My biggest issue is trying to create a quiet routine for DS (5). He is a poor sleeper, and tends towards some big meltdowns when unsettled or overtired. He’s very hard to settle in his room so I often read him to sleep in the lounge. , He generally fights going to bed/sleep. He has melatonin but we try use it sparingly. Potential for ADHD as I have it.
He loves seeing DSD’s friends and they are really sweet with him. But he also knows they are here, we can hear them and they come upstairs, so it disrupts him. I also just want the house to ourselves more without being responsible for other people’s teens.
To avoid drip feed, house jointly owned, I paid deposit, DH has a house that we will be transferring into both names. This is a formality - we don’t live in the UK and I am legally entitled to half as we’ve been together eight years.
DH thinks I am being unreasonable. I get that he is glad she’s here where he can keep an eye on her most of the time, but I think it’s too much. AIBU?