Aaaah...had typed up message and then it disappeared. Starting again! Thanks everyone for your responses, been really good to get some context. I've no jealousy about new GF, it's more he has smutty talk, some of which our son has walked in on (and me), and he tends to do it during the night, so there's talking and light pollution from TV, lights on, and him moving from room to room. I'm a light sleeper, work FT and trying desperately to keep the remaining wheels on the bus. It also wakes our son up sometimes. But that's my problem, not his, I get that. I've asked him not to do it for these reasons, but whilst he's here in reality nothing I can do to stop it. Just to be clear though, this is no longer his home, he is (for want of a better word) squatting here because he seemingly is unable to support himself and is a complete mess. I have supported him for eight years and am doing so no longer, there's been enough upset for our son, this is it, and moving forward our son will (and must have) a much healthier environment to grow up in, so there is zero chance of me giving into the usual emotional blackmail. Now he's lost his job I don't know when he'll be leaving the house, which makes the logistics of going for a lock change extremely difficult to co-ordinate. He is here nearly all the time, quite literally just leaves the house to get booze and food, so not gone long. I could leave keys in doors, but not a solution as I need to leave the house for school and work. I'm waiting for the non-emergency police service to call back, but looking online looks like they'd only do something if DV, which there isn't. I might be able to get a court order to get him out, although not sure how much time that takes, and I'm not entirely sure if suitable to our circumstances (unmarried, no joint ownership, no DV, son will be staying with his mother whose house it is). I've had some free legal advice but just cannot afford any further legal advice. He has said he will leave on the date I've given (now three weeks away). I would dearly love him to be gone before, I just don't know how to physically make that happen (not managed to get through to Citizen's Advice). Putting belongings on driveway won't be helpful at this point, he's an active alcoholic, it's not someone 'normal' you're dealing with, it brings with it a whole other lot of awful. Our son is also very upset with it all, so I'm desperate for his leaving to be as least traumatic as possible. Current plans? I have none 😔 Supporting son as best I can whilst not knowing how to handle this myself. School being super supportive will see if any extra support that can be accessed under circumstances. Thanks again for your responses, I've found them encouraging 🙂