To rethink daughter moving out for uni

[Ledad]

She is 18 years old so an adult, she is planning to move out for uni and will be 19 by then. She is legally obliged to make her own decisions but today, she saw a video on facebook if you put your phone in the microwave it will charge up to 100 percent, she actually thought it was real and tried it. Luckily her brother ran in and stopped her or she would have burned the house down, if she was in uni accomdation now she could have done it. I would be funding some uni stuff so if i wanted i can just change my mind, Im having thoughts of that after seeing this tbh.

They are all like that at that age.

No, they really aren't.

Common sense isn’t so common, no matter what, you can’t prepare her for everything, life lessons.

No, that is not typical for an adult.

They are absolutely not.

Is this her only mistake?

Is she capable of learning from her mistakes?

If she is, you need to let her. Else she will never grow up.

😂😂😂😂 Is this real?

I mean your decision (or advice to her as it’s her decision) can't be based on this alone?

Is she usually sensible or irresponsible?

Uni halls are always a kind of supported living style place to learn the basics of adult living anyway. She won’t be alone so a good chance for her to grow up and learn how to be independent in a safe environment.

@Octavia64 is your username after the Skoda Octavia?

I agree - they really aren’t all like that. My 18 year old is actually really sensible and very switched on, far more than I was at her age I think.

You can’t stop her moving out to uni - all you can do is try to teach her as many life skills as you can before she goes.

No they're not. I certainly wasn't and I was living completely alone at 18.

Even my 12 and 10 year olds wouldn't think putting a phone in a microwave was a good idea!!

That being said. She won't make that mistake again op!

It often seemed that not a week went by at uni without a middle of the night fire alarm when someone tried to do something stupid. Often involving toast but not exclusively.

@Ledad

No.

After the Roman Emperor Augustus's sister.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Octaviathee_Younger

I smell a wind up, but no. You cannot dictate what your daughter does in terms of moving out at 19.

Sorry but 🤦🏻‍♀️ 😂

my ds thought that microwaving eggs would hard boil them

he is doing a masters at UCL!!!

I actually just thought that maybe microwaving an egg would hard boil it.

One of my son's friends at school has quite a loose attachment to reality and told my son that humans only have one ear and that it goes all the way through the head.

Definitely not

In the summer before uni one friend off to an RG science course set fire to the microwave and flooded the washing machine and kitchen in one day.

Another friend on her way to do Chemistry at Oxford melted plastic all over the inside of the oven because she didn’t know to take the plastic packaging off an oven pizza.

Another friend off to an RG uni (who had turned down Oxford) set fire to the kitchen while attempting to make sausages.

They all went to uni and are functioning adults. Teenagers can be incredibly dim.

Making mistakes is part of growing up.

While on summer break from Durham, doing his Masters in Maths, my brother managed to get his finger stuck in a hole in the work bench... he had put it in there out of curiosity to see if it would fit.

He managed to free it by sawing through the work bench, but admitted her had nearly had to ring me (I was in sixth form at the time) to come and rescue him.

You can hard boil eggs in the microwave. You need to prick the shell to make sure they don't explode but people do it regularly. There are a few methods.

Really? Did this actually happen?

Sure...

I advised one Oxbridge educated friend he could reheat last night’s pizza by sticking it in the oven for 10 minutes.

I did not tell him to take it out of the cardboard box.

He lived in a flat above a shopping centre and two pubs and a restaurant were evacuated on a cold January night.

Makes me wonder how they manage to do a degree 😬, my dd is pretty stupid too as are a lot of her friends, I fear we are raising highly intelligent dc that have 0 common sense.

It took my dd a month to work out where the recycling bins were at her uni halls, I went to visit her and there were piles of pizza boxes in her room, I looked out her bedroom window where there’s a big sign and arrow pointing to the bin area, yet ‘she couldn’t find the bins’, she hadn’t thought to ask anyone or to go look around.