To just go off sick until I work out what to do?

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I covered maternity leave part time, original teacher came back but school wanted me to stay on. Now me and other teacher job share. Other teacher was pissed at not being the only teacher in the dept anymore and has made my life a misery ever since she came back. Our assistant has also made my life a misery, to the point I had to make a formal complaint. Complaint was dealt with, disciplinary dished out etc. A term later we are back to where it started with them both causing me problems, bitching about me, trying to make me look bad to management etc. it's clear they want it back to how it was with just the two of them. Nothing is going to change is it? My anxiety and stress is through the roof. I dread going in, my whole life is consumed by it. Shall I go off sick? I can't afford to just leave and not be paid

Deadline to hand in notice to leave at Easter is tomorrow isn’t it. Can you leave and do
supply. One benefit in teaching is there’s always jobs. I know not ideal but if it’s toxic you need to put yourself first

This is really sad to read. Dreadful.
I would go off sick and I don't say that lightly.

No don't go off sick.
You can either hand in notice and do supply as suggested or complain again and tell the school they need to sort this, it's simply not acceptable and they should both be disciplined.

Yes it is toxic. I didn't even consider that the deadline is this week! That's so much pressure. I need to think about it first. I'm not sure if going off sick will make me feel better or worse

Yes do go off sick if your job is making you so stressed. Why would you say not to? Take some time to recover and then talk to the school about returning and how they will make that OK for you. Make sure you document what is happening to help with the discussion.

Nasty, malcious of them

Yes, take time out sick, think about next steps

Phone ACAS tomorrow for good advice - A family member of mine was helped by ACAS in a very caring way and great advice and guidance provided

Going off sick won't solve anything as the problem will still be there when you get back, except you'll find it harder to go back.

I feel your pain OP I’m in a similar situation, been bullied out a class and micromanaged like nothing. I don’t know where I am day-to-day. I was off sick last year came back January. I hate everyday there now if I say anything to my line manager it will be criticised and thrown back at me. Last week she went into my class and moved things around after I had gone home (she thinks she is helping) but she doesn’t know the children at all, thinks she knows best and it’s her way of the highway.

I am searching for other jobs but if I don’t find one my plan is to resign in the Summer, for the sake of my mental health I am not going back there and it’s been a relief knowing that. I’m fortunate in that my DH has a decent job and we won’t starve because my sanity comes first

Couldn't you go and speak to the head and tell them what you've said here, that the nasty behaviour is affecting you so much it is leading to severe anxiety and stress, you don't feel you can continue. Surely they won't want to lose you so will deal with it more firmly. If they don't stamp it out, then go off sick.

I did actually hand my notice in after the disciplinary as I felt like nothing had been resolved and nothing had changed. The head teacher asked me to reconsider and says to please trust the process and that it will get better for me. 5 months later and nothing has changed, at all.

Did the one who came back off mat leave actually want to jobshare? Sounds like you might both have been treated badly.

At least one of them is a proven liar. She lied in the mediation, she lied about me to form a counter claim, she is utterly ruthless. I feel like I am fighting a losing battle. She will just lie and lie. I've never known anyone like it! The other teacher is just clever and sly, will always find a way to make me look bad, but does it in a nice as pie 'just trying to be helpful' kind of way.

I think if it were me I'd quit and do supply for a bit until I found a new job. Good thing about teaching is supply is always available! Not worth sticking around for a job where you're miserable.

Honestly, I'd duel track a further complaint (can a union support you?) and looking for another job.

So she was part time, the timetable was drawn up accordingly. When I came along we took on more classes so there were enough for us both to do a few days each. She absolutely didn't want to job share, she was the boss of her own kingdom before I rocked up

I’m at the stage where if I don’t get another job I’m resigning as I’m too old to be spoken to like a child in front of other children and colleagues.

I was also physically hurt last week but nothing was said about that, everything was about how we can make the child’s time at school happier. Now I know it’s all about the child and I completely understand that but to not even say “are you ok?” Or acknowledge me it’s just wrong.

Another option would be to go on the sick then with the support of your union say you cannot go back there for the sake of your MH. A colleague did this and got transferred to another school.

This is disgusting OP. All bullying is disgusting and this woman is a mother in charge of a young child. What a fine example she will set him/her.
Document everything. Keep records of their behavior. Then take it to the Head and hope that they get their arses handed to them on a plate. They have been disciplined once, they will have a record.

I went to work today. I work weds Thurs and Fridays. I am greeted by an LSA telling me that one of the lovely ladies I work with has told everyone how I'd had a complaint made about me from a parent because of my conduct in class! Nothing of the sort has happened, yet another way to completely trash my reputation. I'm at the end of my tether now.

You need to take this to the head and governors. No one should get away with treating people like that. Don't assume people don't know what they are like. You may have been employed in the hope she wouldn't return. Even if you do decide to leave write everything down and send it to the head and governors so they know or they can't stop it from happening again.

Christ... this sounds like the school I worked at.
And yes, I left as I couldn't stand the culture any more.

I'm sorry that youve had to experience such nastiness but it really doesn't surprise me.

I really wish school heads were held totally accountable.
Yes I'm well aware of the Head of a school who took her life and I'm ever so sorry but some headteachers seem to become god-like and just take absolutely no notice of their staff, relying on brown-nosed lackies that have suddenly been catapulted into SLT status but are out of their depths.

There needs to be a root and branch investigation into every school and this investigation needs to look at the delivery of the curriculum as well as SEND arrangements.

I once worked in a class where the year group leader ( three class intake) was ever absent due to Year Group Leader time, subject leader time, Mentoring time ( supposed to be me but never happened yet she claimed the time!)
She also took SLT time ( not that she ever went to a meeting but claimed the money) and so her class was covered by a ( not qualified) TA for much of the time.

Schools have got away with so much but the government is frightened of them.
In my previous life, I was audited to within an inch of my life like many professions.

I no longer have respect for teachers , can you guess? And their over reliance of Twinkl is shocking!

original teacher came back but school wanted me to stay on. Now me and other teacher job share. Other teacher was pissed at not being the only teacher in the dept anymore

How can she be the only teacher in the department if she was part time? If they hadn’t kept you on, would she have wanted to teach off of the lessons required? I don’t quite understand. Is she cross that you’ve been given some of the days she wanted?

We are a non compulsory subject so she taught what she could in her part time hours. Was a nice easy life. Then I came along and they decided to expand the dept so we could a lot more classes spanning the entire week. It's created more work for her and taken away her nice easy role where she just got left to get on with it.

It's created more work for her and taken away her nice easy role where she just got left to get on with it.

Ah, right. I can kind of see why she’s not happy then!

Not that it’s your fault.

Yes, I can too. In her shoes I guess I'd be hacked off too. But it doesn't excuse her behaviour

They took your complaint seriously and issued a disciplinary. Why not put in another complaint? Another disciplinary would put them at real risk of losing their jobs.