Myself and DH and living with DF temporarily. DF can be lovely when he wants to be until he has had a drink.
Yesterday he had been out drinking all day, when he came back you could tell he was looking for a fight. He was asking me the same question repeatedly and got angry when I got annoyed. I ended up burning cakes I was cooking with DD as when I went to check on them he shouted at me for walking of when he was talking to me, even though I apologised and said hold the thought I need to get cakes out the oven.
It ended up with him completely shouting angrily for over an hour I'm surprised the neighbours didn't call the police.
DF has always been like this when drunk and this resulted in physical violence to DM when I was a child.
I told DH today we need to leave and find somewhere else to like. DH was like, he was drunk, he is fine normally, and stated next time he is drunk to just let him ride it out.
I explained under no circumstances am I letting DD witness someone that angry and no way is she seeing the same as I did when I was growing up. Drunk or not, that behaviour is not acceptable.
AIBU to think as a society we often excuse people's behaviour due to the fact they have had a drink?