Relocation to USA

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zssta · 25/02/2024 12:18

I'm American and had a baby with a British man. After 3 years of being here I want to go back home ( currently uk) to my family as I've been suffering mentally without them near since giving birth. My babys dad doesn't Want to move and keeps threatening suicide if I leave him with the baby. The need to leave is also him due to having mental illness like depression, anxiety and anger unmanaged. It's too much for me to handle with a baby. My baby dad and have decided the relationship is too toxic for our baby so decided to end it. I want to take legal action so I can take my baby with me, he isn't going to consent on his own free will. What should I do??

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zssta · 25/02/2024 20:39

sleekcat · 25/02/2024 15:48

It's a very difficult situation and not fair on your baby's father if you just moved back to the USA. I can see why he won't give permission for you to go there, although you might get it through a court for a temporary visit.
My child's father actually lives in USA. Believe me, it's very difficult to maintain anything resembling a typical relationship over such a distance, probably unless you have a lot of money and time to visit frequently in person and stick to it. My child sees his dad about once a year. Facetime is great but my child would barely speak on it until was quite old - over 10 - because he didn't know what to say and found it awkward. Young children often aren't great at conversation that isn't face to face. Flights are not cheap either.

Thanks for sharing. Could I ask, if you say it isn't fair, why is your babys father in the USA then ?

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ChimneyPot · 25/02/2024 23:01

zssta · 25/02/2024 20:35

My career brought me here! I am a junior doctor, my studies are on hold as I am working part time as my LO is in nursery part time. My ex partner works full time and doesn't want to help me during the week as he believes its too stressful for him. He works in IT.

So he doesn’t want his child 50:50. He wants you to do the caring and parenting and him to be every other weekend or something.

There is no way this man wants his child full time if you were to go back to the US.

I would definitely consult a solicitor.

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