Feel insecure about my age and that men want younger

[Psychosomaticaddict]

I'm 32, 33 in a couple of months and recently got rejected by a guy who's 30, 31 in July. So I'm pretty much 2.5 years older, he didn't say this but I am wondering if it's anything to do with me being a little older, and men that age wanting someone in their 20s.
I mean if he did, that's fine, but I am worrying ill always have to go older from now on.
Also wondering if he (and others) think that women of my age are desperate to get married and have children. I would like it at some point but only with the right person, I'm not desperate. I didn't say anything to suggest this. What do others think?

It's a shame because I am confident in my looks, in myself and who I am, but recently I've been feeling like this.

Dp was 32 when I met him. I was 44. That's ten years ago.

I'm 32 and it's never crossed my mind that I'm 'too old' to be honest

My partner is 10 years younger than me. I think it depends on the person as to their preference

If you're nearly 33, you might need to seriously consider if you want children? I divorced when I was 34, met my current husband when I was 35 and married soon after. I'm 37 now and after 2 miscarriages finally pregnant (3rd trimester).

Luckily he's a bloody wonderful guy who moved quickly so I could have a child before I got too old - and if he hadn't been like that I'd be looking at possible childlessness now.

I also wasn't desperate then and only would have had a child with the right man (I'd had an abortion 2 months before meeting my husband) but, tbh if I wasn't pregnant now I'd be a little desperate. 32 to 37 has swung around really fast for me. Just food for thought

From what my single friends say, dating in general gets harder the older you get…

But 33 is not old! I don’t think a 31 year old would finish with you because of age.

My DH is several years younger than me, in my experience if you want to be with someone then it’s not a barrier at all.

I know in OLD that some men your age will be setting their age limits to below 30, but that’s just doing you the favour of screening out some shallow idiots. 😉

I'm 32 and my DP is 27.

A lot of men are on manosphere forums now. I routinely see and hear men telling women over 25/30 they’ve hit the wall and are washed up/used up, and will grow old alone with cats for company.

No you are not old op, we just live in a very messed up misogynistic society. You’ve probably absorbed some of those horrible messages as a woman.

Men can be awful, they’re worse when they enter their 40/50s they definitely don’t want women their own age, so
women the same ages either have 2 choices, stay single or date men decades older than themselves.

I don't agree. Might be a few who still think that way but not really the case. I got divorced in my 20's (no kids) and in my early 30's assumed i was done for. However was really surprised at the proposals from younger men, some 1 - 7 years younger.

But I will say don't assume thats why unless told so. I had someone propose to me. This guy was 43 at the time I was 32 and when he found out my age he said no he is looking for someone 25 and under! I wasn't interested anyway as he didn't take care of his appearence or health.

Sinilar with me. I met DH at 32 married at 33 and had DS at 34. But he was the right guy and we discussed infertility and both agreed if we couldn't have children we xould adopt or stay childless and I still feel that way as 4.5 years later he is still the wonderful amazing man I met back then and ia a fantastic father to DS. I will be 37 when DC 2 arrives and that's fine by me.

YABU, if you want kids then your clock is ticking so unless you meet someone who is keen to have kids asap then most people will go for someone younger as it buys them more 'time'

You're too young to be wondering this. And a 2 years age difference is nothing!

If you did get rejected for being slightly older, you have swerved a bad one. Don’t worry, they are not all like that. Relax another one will be along soon and hopefully better.

Good luck

To be brutally honest I think in some cases your age does matter. Men in some social circles do tend to want children later - often late thirties or pushing 40. If your ex who was 30 was thinking of children in say 8 years. you'd be approaching 41. That likely means maybe one baby if you're lucky. I think you need to look around your social circle and see what's common in terms of marriage and pregnancy. I think this boils down in practice to not dating younger men at nearly 33. You do have time but you absolutely shouldn't fritter it on "non possibles" and "not likelies". Obviously there are exceptions to this but I think you need to play the odds.

But two years is a long time in terms of a relationship. That's two years of fun before even having to think of settling down

No way. I'm older than you slightly and it isn't your age. Most men don't care about age, the ones that do you avoid

I was 54 when I met my chap, and he's 7 years younger than me (although his family/friends thought I was younger than him ... I do look younger, to be fair).

I did a lot of online dating and yes, there were men my age who wanted to date much younger women (but they looked like potatoes and had no social skills, so I doubt any of them managed to!). But there were plenty of men who wanted to meet someone their own age.

I hate when people say time is ticking, people can have children past 40 better than having a child with a loser bum just because "time is ticking"

I've been with DH for 12 years now, I was 34 when we got together, he was 33, stop overthinking x

Well you'd be too old for a man who's looking for a woman in her 20s, but that won't be all men. I thought you'd be a lot older than this when I opened the thread!

I wasn't pregnant now I'd be a little desperate. 32 to 37 has swung around really fast for me. Just food for thought that's really not helpful is it. Are you saying OP should start getting desperate?? Weird

In all honesty I'd stop worrying about it and have fun dating

My DH is 5 years younger than me. You don't know if you were rejected because of your age or for a other reason. There are some men who will go after you her women but plenty who won't. This man clearly wasn't right for you so just move on

33 is a tricky age to be dating I think. I was doing it at 32. If you want children then things need to move fairly quickly, whereas going for someone in their 20s gives a lot more wiggle room.