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Holiday photo sharing on WhatsApp group

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Allshallbewell2021 · 24/02/2024 10:07

I'm sure I am being a bit unreasonable but I find my SIL's sharing of their very glam holiday photos a bit depressing. I mean one photo is ok but we have had a photo every day now.

It seems a bit insensitive to the group IMO. But I don't want to go into why it's insensitive, they always do it. I don't mind it on their social media pages because no one has to look at those. But this is a key contact group and it just gets used as a brag page by them.

Feel better for getting that off my chest.

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Onelifeonly · 25/02/2024 07:42

DontGiveADuck · 24/02/2024 15:27

It’s not about not being able to afford it (in my case anyway).

My life could quite literally be falling apart, marriage, deaths, children being very ill and my MIL would ignore it all in favour of posting a picture of her legs on the beach. There is no thought for anyone else, ever.

That's very understandable. Family is all about relationships even in a WhatsApp group. We don't have issues of envy or complete disregard of other's circumstances in our family, so the group is just a nice way to keep in touch and make arrangements for family events.

My siblings and I also share some interests, and one of those is in places we have travelled to. So photos from either places we have been, or would be interested in going, generate discussion.

Pictures of meals and cocktails are, I admit, of less interest, unless I can see the scenery.

It's less about WhatsApp family groups, than OP's family situation. The WhatsApp part is fairly irrelevant except to understand how the photos are being seen.

rookiemere · 25/02/2024 07:52

I hear what you are saying, to me it depends a bit where they are. If it's a genuinely interesting location then maybe one person in the group MIL (?) has an interest in the destinations and it's easier to post on a group chat.
If it's just a daily photo of her sipping her cocktail du jour in the Caribbean, then less reason to share.

Unfortunately I can't think of anything you could say that wouldn't sound chippy and aggressive, so the best thing to do is mute the chat. Maybe you could miss a message of actual importance and when quizzed about it say "Oh I had to mute that group, just didn't have time or inclination to look at all those pictures ".

SallyWD · 25/02/2024 08:06

We have family WhatsApp groups (one with my family, one with the in-laws) and we all share holiday photos, photos of days out, photos of nice meals at restaurants etc etc. We all do it, we all genuinely enjoy looking at each other's photos. It never occurred to me for a second that this could piss someone off.
One photo a day seems fine to me. I'd want to see more, to be honest!

Allshallbewell2021 · 25/02/2024 09:10

The point of AIBU, in my usage,is to check with others if I am BU or not. I think I am being a bit unreasonable and have just stopped looking at this trip. I really wish them well and joy I just think less would be better. They don't do less and sorry they've posted loads more in the last day or so. I am not saying I don't wish them well, just that less is more in this kind of sharing.
No one else on the group shares in this way which is why I think it's disproportionate.
But thank you for your thoughts, it's helped me.

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