Holiday photo sharing on WhatsApp group

[Allshallbewell2021]

I'm sure I am being a bit unreasonable but I find my SIL's sharing of their very glam holiday photos a bit depressing. I mean one photo is ok but we have had a photo every day now.

It seems a bit insensitive to the group IMO. But I don't want to go into why it's insensitive, they always do it. I don't mind it on their social media pages because no one has to look at those. But this is a key contact group and it just gets used as a brag page by them.

Feel better for getting that off my chest.

Good thing you're not on our (multiple!) family groups. There's pictures of snow, garden flowers, cats (lots of cats), baking, holidays, random chat about people we've met who have a connection to our home county and how quickly we can work out if we are related to them, lots of decades old cultural references and the odd niece or nephew sharing a schooling or sporting achievement. I love it.

Completely agree with you - it's insensitive, indulgent and unnecessary. Why can't people have a nice time without bragging to others? One of my absolute pet peeves.

The reading the room failure is the main thing, no one would mind if it wasn't relentless.

I find it a bit tedious when I get loads of holiday photos from family whatsapps, but I don't think it's insensitive unless there's a bunch more information you're not saying.

Ours isn’t used a lot, but is fun, usually occasional photos of random stuff that reminds us of childhood, or extremely black humour.

I kind of see what you mean. I have a relative who used to post all the time whenever they went on holiday (it was LOTS of holidays, very regularly, at one point they were way every other month I think). They always used to appear when I was feeling very stressed during extra busy periods at work, no chance to take my lunch break etc etc. I'd see the notifcations on my phone and know that it was yet another photo of "just stopped for coffee" or "having a lovely cocktail", and while I was always happy for them, it did used to highlight the differences in stress levels in our lives so that I felt like there was little empathy there whenever we used to talk about how my work was going.

I was glad for them that they went on so many holidays and were enjoying themselves but after a while it gets a bit wearing to repeatedly reply "looks lovely, enjoy" to non stop very similar types of photos, while you are stressed and exhausted yourself.

It’s not about not being able to afford it (in my case anyway).

My life could quite literally be falling apart, marriage, deaths, children being very ill and my MIL would ignore it all in favour of posting a picture of her legs on the beach. There is no thought for anyone else, ever.

People do it because they can today. Technology is there.

Nobody needs to share their holiday photos - I never do. It's tacky and a little bit "show off".

Exactly this. They seem to become very self centered, totally uncaring to the audience who has to view their mindless updates. The ones I find most amusing are the 'thought you might like to see...' no, I don't care to see your meal you scoffed last night 😂

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I have no problem being happy for others with more, I'm genuinely able to feel joy for others; it's just this couple are relentless. I'm asking for a proportionate amount of sharing - that is all. When you over share - it starts to feel unwelcome - that's call I'm saying - some is fine - too much starts to feel bad.

This is not a complicated idea. Most people get it - that's why we teach our kids not to brag.

My brother and I love skiing and I did share some snow photos with him and my dad recently. He told me to stop! He’s now skiing and I said he could send photos - I like seeing them! But there is a limit. I can see why you’re irritated.

A photo a day while they are only holiday for what a week or so hardly seems like bombarding.
PIL have just been on a walking holiday in the Cotswolds and shared some pictures (mainly of the dogs with scenic backgrounds!) on the family WhatsApp group, is that really considered bragging?!

So before it was one photo a day and now it is relentless. I wouldn't call one a day relentless.

Maybe teach them not to be envious and not to moan instead?

I think it's rude and inconsiderate of them.

I didn't share holiday pics on a couple of my WhatsApp groups because I knew for a fact a few of my friends were really struggling for money and weren't getting a holiday that year.

Mute and archive

I'm in WhatsApp groups for my family and the in-laws. The families are scattered across the UK with a few in N America, and some travel with work. We post news, daft memes, 'dad' jokes and yes, holiday photos.

We enjoy seeing the photos - especially the scenery or our family looking relaxed. Some of us may not have holidays for a while, but we care about the people who do.

This sums it up in the first reply.

I have no problem being happy for others with more, I'm genuinely able to feel joy for others; it's just this couple are relentless. I'm asking for a proportionate amount of sharing - that is all. When you over share - it starts to feel unwelcome - that's call I'm saying - some is fine - too much starts to feel bad.

How is one photo a day "relentless" ?

You need to look at why on eaerh you are letting what others post makes you think this is about you

If people sharing things makes you, even in your head, dictate what you think others should post or not is you issue not theirs

Can you not just be happy and excited for them? I love to see my friends and family enjoying their lives.

You don't like your sil and you don't get many or any holidays yourself.
Just mute as people say.
Just because people share dosent mean they are bragging.

my SIL is exactly the same. She always posts and boasts about everything. Holidays, house renovations etc.. She never used to be like this. She is literally the only person who posts on the family whatsapp. I muted and archived it, a long time ago.