To ask when you stopped getting up when your children did?

[Strongwindssighed]

Mine are very little so I know it is a while off but at what point are they free to get up, get own breakfast, actually let you relax a bit in the morning?

I really don’t like seeing 5 when I wake up!

My dsc were about 8

Put breakfast out on the table so they just have to grab the milk

From about 3 mine knew that if the clock had a 5 she stayed in her room unless she needed a wee or there was a problem, she'd play for a bit (not always particularly quietly). She could wake me after 6. From about Reception age she was allowed downstairs after 6 so she'd get breakfast and put on the TV and as she'd wake me doing so, I just snoozed an alarm a couple of times then joined her. I did have the world's most sensible 5 year old though.

To get up and put the TV on about 4, and breakfast about 6. They are at senior school now and at weekends everyone is still up and often out of the house by 8am to go to various sports matches…..so I don’t think my lying in bed days are coming any time soon.

I can sort my 3 and 5 yo out with a snack and put the TV on for for 20 mins or so in bed to drink a coffee without any major drama but I’d want to be at least semi-conscious. 5 yo can be trusted to get himself a drink/snack and play and leave us to it but he wouldn’t be able to make breakfast as he’ll only eat toast.

My DS is 7 and I still get up with him otherwise he’d be rewiring a plug… hands on type! I’m always surprised at how young the children are that can be trusted to play downstairs whilst the parents sleep in bed, no judgement, I just wouldn’t be able to settle.

It’s tough going at the moment. I’ve been woken at 1, 4 and 545. I had to concede defeat with the 545 wake. I need to look to a time things will hopefully be more civilised 😫

About 10 for my dc. They’re an only child and liked company!

Doze on the sofa, stick the tv on if they wake at 5 45. From 5 years onwards they can go downstairs by themselves, you won't be deeply asleep when they do but you wint have to get out of bed. They should know to come and get you if they need something.

Mine are currently 7 and 9 and definitely still left them to sort breakfast/ play at 6 and 8… possibly even 5 and 7 but the 7 year old would have been doing the breakfast making and our playroom is pretty safe. They also used to have gro clock now have yoto players to know when can go downstairs as 9 year old still wakes early often (always starts with a 5!)

My 3 yo is like this. Took him to a gymnastics class the other day, all the other kids are on the equipment - he’s figuring out how to dismantle it

8 & 6 year old currently down on their own and that’s a recent thing. I feel bad though! And haven’t trained them to get their own breakfast yet (haven’t had a kitchen for the past 4 months ish, will do asap).And j also don’t like it because they’re straight onto switch and iPad unsupervised (weekend and weekdays although our weekday rule is be fed and dressed before screens. Clearly we are slack with that).

But then we also had another baby so screwed that up for us - although shes not v loud so I think sometimes she’s in her cot a fair while before anyone gets up. Me and DH still get 1 lie in per weekend.

We live in a small flat - I often feel the lack of space but it's good for things like this as they aren't so far away. So from about 3 they could sit on the sofa and watch TV for a bit. Child-proofed room!

Fairly young, perhaps 3&5 - all one level though, dd2 was very competent at fetching her own food even as a toddler, remember cleaning up little milk spills where she made breakfast for both of them. They were pretty late sleepers anyway, 9am or so on non school days.

Our 3.5 year old knows to stay in bed until the sun comes up on her clock and then is allowed to get her tablet and watch some cartoons at the weekend. She gets up, has a wee and then gets back in to bed and watches paw patrol.

it’s an Amazon fire so only has age appropriate cartoons and we still have the baby gate on so she can’t go downstairs without one of us but it gives us an extra hour in bed at the weekend while her baby brother sleeps in, as do we

I long for this day! 8 year old with ASD and adhd cannot be left unsupervised for a moment or else house will be on fire! One day.

From about 5 eldest knew he was not allowed to wake me before 6.30. That became 7.

By age 7 hes allowed to go and amuse himself or get some breakfast but doesn't have access to any screens. His sister (4) doesnt always wake me as she sometimes just plays with him.

Im a morning person though, I'm usually up 7ish.

Mine are 6 and 9 and they're downstairs on their own now. Probably been doing this for around 6m to a year. They don't get their own breakfast though - just watching TV etc

My DS is 7 and I still get up with him otherwise he’d be rewiring a plug… hands on type! I’m always surprised at how young the children are that can be trusted to play downstairs whilst the parents sleep in bed, no judgement, I just wouldn’t be able to settle

My DS wouldn't be allowed to do things like that and he knows that. He's learned from years of consequences its not worth trying!

DC are 7 and 10 and have been doing this for about a year. We set out breakfast on the table the night before and they know that breakfast needs to be eaten, beds made and bedroom curtains opened before they put the TV on.
We are very lucky - it’s a 6.45am rule in our house and 8am on a Sunday!

4 yo who is the same 🙋‍♀️ our demolition man. I can already foresee the type of work he'll be into when he's older 🤣

Op try and avoid using screens if they wake early. The blue light just reinforces early waking. Better to avoid lights going on until a decent hour.

My five year old can actually bring me breakfast in bed (I have never asked but she’s observed DH doing this for me before and surprised me… it’s yoghurt and a glass of water). however she is the youngest. I think my eldest was about four, but by then we had a baby and we’re up anyway with the Child That Never Slept (and still doesn’t, at 8).

We can trust my nearly 6 year old to go downstairs and get herself some cereal, she eats it dry, and we leave her a cup of milk in the fridge. She can put the TV on. She has been doing this for 3-4 months now. She is a very calm, relaxed girl though. My son... Wouldn't trust him to do any of that and not do himself an injury 🤣🤣

Mine is 5 and since 4.5 would happily go down and play calmly alone...

I get up not long after (at 7, and he wakes about 6.30) as he def will just have no brekkie if I don't get up and get him eating!

I wrote a similar post myself about a year ago! So fed up of always getting up in the 5ams and thought it would never come to an end…. happy to report that this morning, at the age of 7 and 5, they both quietly went downstairs to watch tv and the 7 year old made breakfast (dry cereal, but it’s a start!) for the 5 year old. No mess. No fuss. Lovely lie in for me 😀