To ask when you stopped getting up when your children did?

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Mine are very little so I know it is a while off but at what point are they free to get up, get own breakfast, actually let you relax a bit in the morning?

I really don’t like seeing 5 when I wake up!

My two children (9 and 6) sleep on the floor above me and they know not to come down until 7.30 unless there is an emergency.

When I go to bed I creep upstairs to their floor and I put their iPads outside their bedroom doors and they know they can silently play on those when they wake up until 7.30 and then they come down to me and I sort breakfast.

Around the age of 5, maybe slightly younger if an older sibling. Having said that by then the damage was done and now I am the one who can't lie in so wake up ridiculously early.

DD is an only child so used to come in to me but she had a grow clock set for about 6 and then stretched to 7. She likes the company like a pp said! I used to get up with her and doze on the sofa while she watched TV if it was early. Now she's 10 and she grabs the iPad to play Roblox or watch YouTube in bed, which I hate, but it's only at weekends and it gives me a bit more of a lie in!

Around age 6 my kids would get up and put the tv on for an hour. My youngest is 9 now and still wouldn't make his own breakfast (and I would rather make it than have porridge all over my kitchen).

The eldest was independent by age 11 - making own breakfast, getting things ready for school, not needing prompting with 'have you done that's or 'its time to do this'

We used the Gro clock to make dd1 stay in bed. We found she would be up at 6am looking half awake ready to go and watch TV. We set it to 7.30 weekends and holidays and have stuck with it since about age 6. Dc can read quietly before that time. She will occasionally now have a much needed lye in.

I can’t remember now but they weren’t particularly old, maybe around 5.

These days I’m usually up first at weekends!

DH used to work shifts often out at 5.30am or back at 8am so lots left to me. I am NOT a morning person.
I was very routined around bedtimes and morning (the rest of the day was much more laissez-faire.
By age 3 and 4 the two older ones had a system. They absolutely could not make noise or leave their beds until the magic light came on (star light on a timer plug set at 7am). They could "read" or look at books until it came on. They were amazingly good at this.
Every bedtime I would make a story about the star light to remind them.
The baby would then wake up at 7ish. When the light came on they could go downstairs and make themselves breakfast (pre poured milk in a glass that they poured over cereal) . They then got toys out. I would have about 30 mins feeding the baby before chaos would ensue and me and the baby would get up. On the best days DH would come in after a Nightshift just before the chaos come and take the baby and play with them and let me have a lie in until about 8.30 before he crashed.

One of the big things I noticed was that friends that had TV or screen time in the morning had stupidly early risers. I also wondered if this was because the kids would be wanting that so would act as a stimulant and wake them up.

Now they are all teens so if course I am the one waking them up 😁

Mine are 6 and 8 and I still get up sometimes

I had an early riser, so spent many a Saturday morning dozing in front of the telly. 10am just to feel like mid afternoon!

Think it may have been about 7, then we'd usually end up downstairs by 8 or 9 anyway because of activities.

This morning, both dh and I are sitting eating breakfast whilst teen dc haven't stirred. It comes quick. The flip side is that teen ds sits up with us at night, watching what we watch.

My 15yo has never been a particularly early waker (around 7 or 8am from when he was in his own room), so I've always gotten up with him. My 12yo was up at the crack of dawn every day until last summer, and was taught to stay in her room until 7, unless she needed something. She's not got any formal diagnosis but I am 95% sure she has some form of adhd, as her impulse control is very low, so while she does her own breakfast and has done since about 6, it's always when I'm up. This holidays have been lovely though, as they've both stayed in bed til 8 every morning. Flip side is they done to bed around 9/10. The later they stay in bed the more likely I am to do them breakfast in the holidays!

Around 6, they could get up and go down for breakfast. At 9, DD would bring me a coffee up to keep me in bed so she could watch all the fuller house she wanted.

Around 7, we used to have a few different rooms downstairs and he was allowed to go in one of the rooms and put the TV on.
We had a few incidents such as a load of ink on the carpet but that was my thought for leaving stuff out. This was weekend only.
I can’t remember if he made his own cereal or not.
Before that he’d play in his room for a little while before i got up.

DS has never been allowed to get up that early, he's told it's night time. When he was very small it was dealt with in the same way as a night waking. You need sleep.
How old are they? Do they have a groclock?

Ours having been doing it for around 12 months (I'm still in bed as I type this). They're 9 & 6. The 6yo has helped himself to whatever he could find in the fridge since he was about 2 - cocktail sausages and a block of cheese being the ones the spring to mind!

It isn’t night time though (from their perspective I mean) they’re ready to start the day

when DS1 was 5 and DS2 was 3, they’d go down and watch TV for a bit unsupervised. DD always slept in til 7.30 and my natural waking time is 8 anyway.

I was lucky that DSS is a lot older than DS so used to get up with him at weekends (for a fee) but once he started school he generally slept quite late anyway unless I woke him up.

They knew that they weren't allowed to disturb us before 6.30 from an early age unless there was a problem.
From about 4 or 5 they were allowed to get up from 6 and get a snack and either play quietly or read.

Around about 5 or thereabouts. I left cereal and milk out on a little table. There was a gate on the kitchen. He liked Lego and his brio train track, so DH would often make a new track layout before we went to bed, so DS was occupied playing with that. But he was quite noisy with the "woo-woos" and "chuff-chuff" train noises, and he was always talking to the trains, so I could doze and listen. If it went quiet, that was the time to get up.

I’m usually first up in my house. And whilst I’m an early riser, my DS who use to start the day around 5am gets up at a more respectable 7ish these days!

At sort of late 6 through to 8, we were still getting up with them, but they were to stay in their room until a slightly more respectable time (7ish). The DCs shared a room, so they entertained each other and the increasing noise level was usually the signal to take them downstairs. At 8-9y/old we were putting cereal/brioche rolls in reach and letting them go down.

Ours were about 3 and 6 and half when we started. They didn't get up super early and they'd just sit watching telly for a bit by then. We were in a flat at the time so could hear if anything untoward happened.

Once they could pour their own cereal!

Probably about 4/5 though they would come in to wake me when they got up then I left the door open to hear them.

I still get up with my children no matter what the time but just recently they have been sleeping in and I'm up before them,I've currently had a cuppa done the washing and sorted the dogs out while all 4 children are still sleeping.(they are 4,5,7,9)

This for me, DS was allowed in his room from about 7/8 not downstairs. He's now 10 and sneaks downstairs for alone time before we get up 🤣 he still wakes us for breakfast around 7 as he won't touch the toaster.