To start a thread about abortion

[Shiv861]

I just thought I would create this thread to get people's opinions on abortion. I understand this is a very sensitive topic but I just wanted to understand the generally opinion of fellow Mumsnetters.

I constantly see posts that say they "could not do it in XYZ situation but don't judge"

Say I found out I was pregnant now for instance, going through a divorce with 2 young children, I knew it would be in their best interests to abort (as early as possible). It would hurt to make that decision obviously but isn't being a mum making decisions based on what is best for your existing children?

I am so sorry that you've been through this.

If you need MN support then maybe try starting a thread on one of the more supportive boards, and people can advise and point you in the direction of some help 💐

I think it is very easy to pass comment on what you would or wouldn't do until you are on the position where you have to make that choice.

It is never easy and I do not envy anyone who has been faced with it. I do not support the removal of that choice though. No man or woman had a right to say what happens to someone else's body. The only people who should have a say is the woman in question and medical professionals if appropriate such as in the event continuing a pregnancy would put mother and baby at risk then I think its important the woman has all the options put before her

It is no one elses business except the woman who is pregnant. My body, my choice

Please dont hate yourself

I feel very strongly that a woman's choice on whether on not to have an abortion is nobody's business but their own with advice from their medical provider. I don't feel that I have the right to comment on another person's reproductive choices, and I certainly do not feel I have any right to judge. I feel equally strongly that my choice is no business of anyone elses.

Please please contact Women’s Aid

Hypothetically, I don't know that I could personally have one and think I'd make it work (although it certainly wouldn't be ideal with a just 9 month old). However, I wouldn't have an opinion about what another woman would choose to do one way or the other. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Interestingly, I've seen 'pro choice' advocates on here going on and on to OP about how abortion would be best, when they've quite clearly made their view on this known.

I have had four terminations.

One because I was being abused by my then "partner", he forced pregnancy on me, and then forced abortion.

One for a missed miscarriage that didn't end itself and was making me ill.

Two for medical reasons. Wanted pregnancies. Deeply loved babies. One was born live, the other already gone. Their lives would have been short, painful and traumatic. I couldn't inflict it upon them. It is my biggest source of pain and grief.

As early as possible, as late as necessary. And I mean it.

Women who endure (and I say endure because it isn't a "choice" in any real sense of the word) compassionate indications for late term babies aren't doing it for any other reason than they desperately want to save their precious babies from suffering.

I think it's fantastic that it's legal in the UK. So many women in so many countries don't have that option.

I don't understand the phrase "As early as possible, as late as necessary." Does that mean to indicate support of abortion right up until the point of (but not including) waters breaking? I'm not sure how I feel about that.

I appreciate it's a bit arbitrary because there are a (VERY FEW) case studies of preemie babies surviving at 23 weeks but overall I think 23 weeks is a reasonable cut-off point. I don't think I'd support full and elective availability of abortion up until birth. But willing to be persuaded otherwise.

I fully support abortion, those that don’t, don’t need to have one.
I had an abortion about 20 years ago, felt nothing but relief and have never regretted it. (Not trying to minimise what others have been through, you have my full sympathy).

We all know abortion is a right etc.

But that's not what op is saying? She's asking why people don't have more abortions and instead choose to carry on.

I think it's probably down to personal choice and maybe also personal views on abortion?

Absolutely, just don't know why so many people are talking about why we need access to abortion, it being legal.

Op knows that, but can't grasp why people don't want to terminate.