I don’t think it’s a big issue and he’s probably just keen but I can see why you are wary.
My friend went on a date with a man she met on a dating site years ago and it went really well, he admired a gold and amethyst ring she was wearing that she really loved.
They had a couple more dates and were still getting on well, he took her out a few times and refused any offers she made to pay.
After a few weeks of seeing each other he bought her an 18k gold, diamond and amethyst necklace to match her ring, she was really uncomfortable and tried to give it back but she said it was awkward because he refused and was offended because it was a gift.
My friend looked it up to see how much it was because she was hoping it wasn’t as expensive as she feared. If it was a reasonable price she said she’d have felt better about accepting it, in the end she didn’t need to because he’d left the receipt in the box and it was nearly £500!
The man she was seeing wasn’t on a very high wage and she noticed on the receipt he’d paid by credit card so she worried more he couldn’t afford it and felt like he was buying her.
He asked her a few days later if she was free at the weekend and she wasn’t, when she said she was busy he hesitated for a few seconds then asked “have you been wearing your necklace? You looked so beautiful in it that I wanted to take you somewhere special to show it off”
My friend reiterated that it was beautiful but he shouldn’t have spent that much! He sulked a bit about not seeing her at the weekend but she agreed she’d see him the next week.
He text her all weekend asking her constantly what she was doing and who she was with, she was at a family birthday party and was getting fed up with being interrogated, she told me she wanted to finish with him but felt guilty he’d spent so much on her.
She went out with him again and he went on and on about the necklace saying things like “look at the shine from the diamond, it’s as sparkly as your eyes” and “the gold looks beautiful against your skin” my friend sat cringing until he said “I want to see you wearing nothing except the necklace”
My friend is very soft hearted and hates confrontation and awkwardness but she said she’d had enough and pretended to be ill so she could go home. Her date started begging her to stay and said he didn’t want her to go because they hardly saw each other and “people in a serious relationship” should see each other more then just once a week.
My friend was freaked out and begged him to take her home, she was relying on him taking her because he’d driven them out to a pub in a rural village 5 miles away with no real taxi service. Eventually he agreed and when he dropped her off she text him saying it was moving too fast and she didn’t want to see him again.
He called her begging and crying and kept asking “what about the necklace I bought you?” She asked for his address to post it back but he refused.
Unfortunately my friend was silly enough to let him pick her up and drop her off after the first few dates so he knew where she lived. He kept showing up at her house crying and begging and even wrote her a song! It was a nuisance at first but after a few months she got scared and had to move. Because he’d never been aggressive the police couldn’t help except warning him off but he just cried on them. The police gave him the necklace back but he posted it through her door again.
This went on for years, he never found her house but she kept changing her number and he kept finding her new one. He popped up on every dating site she tried and she would sometimes leave it months but the second she registered again he’d try to interact, she would block him and he’d set up a fake account.
Over a year after their first date she got talking to someone else online who was very good looking on the photos and seemed to like all the same things as her, she was really excited until one day he asked how her dog was. She hasn’t mentioned the dog because he’d died 6 months ago, it was necklace guy again.
In the end she pretended she was seeing a friend of ours who is a big man, he warned necklace freak off by going to see him at work and luckily he backed off.
This was 10 years ago and my friend has still never returned to dating sites because she still thinks her stalker will be waiting. She doesn’t really go anywhere to meet men so she’s still single.
It’s extremely unlikely this will happen to the OP of this post but it is a red flag for me when a man spends an excessive amount after a short dating period. It depends on if he can afford it and how much it was, if it was well out of what you’d expect his price range for a gift is than I’d be wary. If he keeps bringing it up then I’d run!