Vegas wedding

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One of my best friends got engaged around 2 years ago and has spoke of wanting elope to vegas ever since. This hasn’t happened due to covid, life, money etc. But if anyone asks she says she’s trying to plan it, just trying to save up. She’s really excited and spends a lot of time looking into it and it’s well known amongst everyone that it’s what she wants to do.

DP and I are probably going to get engaged this year and we both want to do it too. We haven’t told anyone because we just want to go over, do it, then announce once home. I’m worried if we do it before her she will be hurt and angry and think we got in there and “copied” her wedding before she got the chance. She can be difficult sometimes too.

Even certain details she mentions is things I want to do too, eg get married by Elvis, go to In N Out after the ceremony and gets pics holding burgers.

I feel that going to Vegas is such a cliche and hardly a unique choice, also the details are also quite generic vegas wedding stuff so she has no right to complain. However, from her side I think her and others would just see me as a copycat and wedding stealer 🤣

Would you sod it and do it if you were me, or perhaps think of something else?

I could tell her and only her before, but again I just wanted to go and do it with minimal fuss and what if she takes it bad/ makes things worse as I’d be rubbing it in?

I got married by Elvis, he picked us up from our hotel in a pink caddy, drove into the cheesy chapel with dry ice before singing a few numbers and conducting the ceremony. It was insanely camp and naff but brilliant. Just the pair of us, no pressure, we were drinking cocktails and playing blackjack before getting picked up. Ended up in old town vegas on Freemont Street in various bars partying. The service itself was a few hundred bucks, we bought our rings off a street vendor so the main expense was flights and hotels which we got through Virgin. Would recommend😎

Sounds like she is quite fanatical about it, you can obviously do what you want - and speak to her about it if you want to try and test the water, but only you know if it will cause irreversible damage or not.

There are a lot of nice places in the world - is Vegas really your #1?

Can i guess is it The Little White Chapel!? If i was you, i would speak to my best friend and give her the 'heads up'. I know many people get married in LV by Elvis, go to Out & Out etc etc but, it also is quite a niche wedding type. It also might look underhand and she might feel a bit hurt if you guys end up doing everything she is discussing/telling you and for some reason you are keeping it a secret!

On another note - why would you want a picture of you both holding an Out & Out burger?

That is a question I can’t quite answer! 🤣

Maybe do the same in a different resort, if you love Elvis maybe Graceland, or Dollywood for a different camp theme.

Surely you could go to Vegas but have different elements to your wedding so it doesn’t just look like you’ve stolen her ideas?

The burger sounds like a copy in particular. Chose a nicer restaurant and have your own experience.

It’s something I’ve been dead set on for a long time, so when DP brought it up to me I was so happy. I had a small feeling he might have wanted a traditional wedding at home.

From these posts it seems a conversation would need to be had beforehand, I’ll have to think very carefully how to word it and whether a text/in person.

I’m copying Lilly Allen, but I agree it does seem like I’m copying her a lot 😩

Why do you want to copy anyone?

Do most weddings not copy others? Popular venues dress styles, DJs, food vendors etc. I don’t want to do it because Lilly Allen did it, I just mean that I saw Lilly Allen and some others do it and liked the idea.

It's not just Lilly Allen that did this but, somehow it seemed quite cool her doing it but, other people look dreadful/cheesy doing it. I'd skip that part tbh!

What about a drive-thru wedding? 😆

She may never get round to doing it at this rate. Two years in and it's all words no action. I'd bring it up via in person or via voice note. Not by text, as emotions get lost in text. It's not like a Vegas wedding is a unique one, lots of people want one. I absolutely love Las Vegas, and would love to renew my vows there one day!

Good luck with your friend:)

Yeah it’s done a lot, even a part of some photography packages etc. I get it’s not for everyone, it’s just an example of an element I’d heard from my friend that I already wanted.

This is basically my argument in a nutshell. I did think at one point maybe I could go after her so she still “got there first”, but then how long do you put things on hold for for the sake of someone else and the fact it could never end up happening for them.

Also - am i correct that you aren't even engaged yet?

Defo give your best friend the heads up then and she can get her skates on.

We also got married in vegas. Not by elvis and no in n out burger. We actually went for an all you can eat buffet after and all you can drink champagne.
I know at least 3 other people who got married in vegas. If that’s what you want to do just tell her you’re doing it.
We told no one. Just went and did it and came home. Wedding cost us about $250. Flights and accom was under £5k. Cheapest wedding ever

Not engaged in the sense that I’ve had no proposal, but have had the chat that we will be “getting engaged” this year then run off for a wedding just us two (to me you’re already engaged in sense if you’re planning a wedding, but he seems to really want to propose bless him).

Sounds lovely, glad you had a good time and on a budget too!

Sounds fun but not quite the “cheapest wedding ever”.

That would be local registry office and a Burger King! 😄

We did City Hall in New York, then pizza in Brooklyn in our wedding gear. Was incredible! Another option of eloping to research if you haven’t already.

Hope you don’t mind me “copying” this one if interest rates again 😉

This was another strong contender I’ve looked at. So glad you had a great time!

I would be a bit gutted to let go of Vegas though.

The idea of a small wedding appeals and of those I know who have had one, none have separated or are divorced since.

Not sure I'd choose Vegas though, and I have been there.

The NYC wedding is far classier.

Let your friend have her day.

We went to vegas for a friends wedding and had the dinner afterwards in a steak house in Caesar's Palace. Best steak in the world!!