We’ve got a DD, 2. Married for 2.5 years, together for almost 10. Would like to add that pre marriage he was completely different, never grumpy, then when we got married it’s like a switch flipped. He’s become more argumentative and grumpier after marriage but perhaps that’s a symptom of tiredness that comes with having a baby. However last few weeks he’s been grumpy on another level.
For context. Currently TTC baby no2 and not been successful for just over 6mo. Initially his sperm motility and morphology weren’t great but after a few months of supplements, huge reduction in his drinking (this is his achievement because most of his drinks were in a pub after work and now he just skips the pub and comes home) and changing our diet (ie I started to cook fresh meals, always full of veggies, mostly chicken, fish and seafood, no red meat) his sperm analysis came back normal. Still not been successful and it’s been close to 6mo of normal semen analyses.
At the moment he nags me for everything. For sending him to work with too much fruit, for meals being too full of vegetables, for the fact that I’ve developed a cough which prevents him from sleeping well, for asking if he plans to drink when he sees his (normally quite boozy) mates for a meal this weekend, for scrunching a water bottle wrong before putting it in the bin. Most things I say or do are met with an eye roll.
I don’t know where to go from here. Not cooking his meals? He’ll just order junk on deliveroo and be happy with it, whilst I feel sad and desperate for our no2.
I don’t think I want to leave (bar the last few weeks we do have a good time together, financial reasons, he’s a good dad, I may run out of time to have a no2 if I leave and having children is everything to me). From what I can tell he doesn’t want to split either.