I 25F had Threadworm last month. Predominately I WFH, and have very little contact (and no recent) with children unless there is a family event. I currently live at home and no one under the same roof has had threadworm.
I’m in a very new relationship. I told my 32M boyfriend that I had Threadworm, and he would have to go to a pharmacy and pick up the tablets just incase but he refused and said that was embarrasing. I felt slightly disgusted by his comment, and pointed out that he’s the only person I have been in contact with apart from my family (who don’t have/or had it) and he could’ve easily been the person who passed it on.
He got VERY defensive when I said he could have been the person who passed it on. For context, my boyfriend lives in a pigsty, his house is always cold and mouldy with plenty of mess lying around. He showers daily but doesn’t use any products like shower gel but he also doesn’t smell bad either. Overall, I wouldn’t say hygiene is his strong point.
I see him most weekends but put my foot down last week that I won’t be going to his house anymore unless he sorts it out because it’s disrespectful to expect someone to stay overnight let alone visit. When I had an apartment (landlord sold in January), I would scrub it before anyone came over and always made sure a candle was lit.
Before anyone nags, we’re only together a month-ish (6 weeks) officially but I’m seeing new sides to him every week that I don’t particularly like or enjoy so I have decided to end our relationship today. When I had my apartment we only met there and he would always shower and use products I had (I could smell them). The reason I noticed he didn’t have/use any products was because I went for a shower and there was nothing there to wash myself or hair with, and he confirmed he just uses “good old water” to rinse.
The Threadworm incident really bothered me. I felt disgusting because of his comments but I also feel he was the reason why I had it to begin with. He doesn’t have the best hygiene but he’s also around younger child more than me (nieces and nephews who visit his parents). He didn’t care if we had sex while I was finishing the course of tablets for it (we didn’t), and initially he refused to medicate until I told him I wouldn’t see him until he did saying it was “an organic part of life”.
AIBU? I’m not accusing him of giving me threadworm but it’s highly likely considering one else around me has/had it recently, and my family wouldn’t lie as we live under the same roof so everyone had to medicate regardless. The threadworm incident is my final straw. It’s valentines week and he hasn’t even bothered to clean his house up!!