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To ask for your success stories of pregnancies straight after a loss?

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RainbowHoping · 14/02/2024 10:02

Early MC last week and we are devastated, it was our first baby and long awaited/wished for. It only took 2 cycles, 1 using OPK strips and that’s when I caught. Both mid 20s, taking vitamins and lead a healthy lifestyle.

I’m hoping this is a good sign for the future that we won’t experience too much struggle conceiving again fingers crossed.

I am scared of another loss but think that fear will always be there.

I’ve stopped bleeding and tests are negative so we are going to try again this cycle. Did anyone get pregnant and carry to term before your next proper period, and was all ok?

I know similar threads have been posted before but I’d love to read some happy endings where you got your rainbow. I need some hope this week. Thank you! 💕

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theeyeshaveit82 · 14/02/2024 10:03

i’m so sorry op

how far along was your miscarriage?

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RainbowHoping · 14/02/2024 10:05

theeyeshaveit82 · 14/02/2024 10:03

i’m so sorry op

how far along was your miscarriage?

5+5. I’d known about the pregnancy for 2 and a half weeks, which was worse as we had all that time to make plans etc!

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TheOneWithUnagi · 14/02/2024 10:08

Sorry for your loss ❤️
I had an early MC last year at 5 weeks, then ovulated around a week later than "normal" (going by MC being CD1) and I'm cuddling my little boy right now.
Dating was originally slightly off but this was corrected at 12 week scan.
There's no reason to wait to TTC again if you want to.

Maryamlouise · 14/02/2024 10:13

Sorry about your miscarriage

I tried again straight away after my miscarriage and got pregnant without having a period in between. Baby totally healthy and now a boisterous lovely little boy. I was definitely a little more nervous than with my first one and was in floods of tears at 20 week scan with relief at everything being OK.

Both friends I know who miscarried with their first waited a little longer as they were both a bit further along and found the actual miscarriage harder so wanted more recovery. Both then conceived fine and no problems

Hope all works out for you

GreyhpundGirl · 14/02/2024 10:16

Not in the same cycle but I'd had a miscarriage in July then fell pregnant in November and now have a perfect 3.5 year old.

Ihaterhymingrabbit · 14/02/2024 10:16

I also mis-carried at 5 weeks and got pregnant again before my next period and that pregnancy is now nearly 4 years old!

If you feel mentally prepared then go for it!!

The only thing I will say is that I had a lot of anxiety during the next pregnancy that something would go wrong, each scan I was worried sick but still found the scans reassuring. I also had a small bleed and thought it was the end again but I got an early scan and everything was fine and a bleed can be very normal even with a healthy pregnancy.

Just remember no two pregnancies are the same and when you do get pregnant again, allow yourself to enjoy it, you deserve to!!!!

Good luck xx

Wictc · 14/02/2024 10:17

I got pregnant straight after my first miscarriage, then went on to have two more miscarriages. After a few years I did go on to have a healthy baby!

Fallenangelofthenorth · 14/02/2024 10:19

My success story is now 16 years old and a really wonderful daughter ❤️

I had a very premature baby who unfortunately died soon after birth. I ignored the advice to wait, because I was just grief stricken really, and got pregnant within 2 months. The pregnancy was fortunately straightforward although I was closely monitored and went into labour 2 weeks early.

Mu daughter really was my rainbow child. I'm so proud of her - she's beautiful, smart, funny, kind and the best daughter I could have wished for x

Getorfthelawn · 14/02/2024 10:21

I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks but got pregnant again shortly afterwards - within a couple of cycles. I was so nervous in that pregnancy but all was fine. I also got pregnant fairly quickly with my second child and that pregnancy was also fine, although the fear of another miscarriage didn’t go away for either, particularly until the first scans, and I did have some very minor spotting early on that caused me to panic.
I wish you all the best. Miscarriages are so common unfortunately (I know many friends who have also been affected) but hopefully you will have good news again soon.

siblingrevelryagain · 14/02/2024 10:22

My third pregnancy ended at 6 weeks in miscarriage, I conceived again straight away without having a period. This pregnancy ended well and is my 12 year old daughter.

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RainbowHoping · 14/02/2024 10:32

I’m so pleased so many of you got your rainbows ❤️ I know I’ll be anxious no matter what whenever I next get pregnant but I guess it’s normal after what we’ve been through.

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user1471515420 · 14/02/2024 10:35

Lost my son at 25 weeks. Fell pregnant again on first month we tried again. That son is now 11 months old and thriving.

Pregnancy will never carry the naivety it did, but one day the darkness will feel a little bit less dark.

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 14/02/2024 10:40

My pregnancy that was conceived the next cycle after a miscarriage is currently sat on the sofa watching crap tv, arguing that she doesn’t need to go get out of her pjs because it’s raining, half term and we have no plans, so this should be a pj tv and cake day.

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RainbowHoping · 14/02/2024 10:59

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 14/02/2024 10:40

My pregnancy that was conceived the next cycle after a miscarriage is currently sat on the sofa watching crap tv, arguing that she doesn’t need to go get out of her pjs because it’s raining, half term and we have no plans, so this should be a pj tv and cake day.

That made me smile, bless her

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Projectme · 14/02/2024 11:11

So sorry you are going through this, it is horrible.

I had a mc (5 weeks) in the April, fell pregnant in late June of the same year; successful pregnancy and had my DS, now 21.
3 years later, I had a mc (13 weeks so had told everyone!) in the September, fell pregnant in early November of the same year; successful pregnancy and had my DD, now 18.

Now struggling with empty nest!

toomanyleggings · 14/02/2024 11:16

Yep I’ve got two girls currently bouncing around the living room that both came straight after miscarriages. Miscarriages often are really a very natural normal part of procreation. If it wasn’t for all the early testing etc we wouldn’t be as aware. In all likelihood you’re a normal fertile woman who will have a baby very soon.

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RainbowHoping · 14/02/2024 12:53

toomanyleggings · 14/02/2024 11:16

Yep I’ve got two girls currently bouncing around the living room that both came straight after miscarriages. Miscarriages often are really a very natural normal part of procreation. If it wasn’t for all the early testing etc we wouldn’t be as aware. In all likelihood you’re a normal fertile woman who will have a baby very soon.

Thank you. I think it’s hard to remember how common it is as not many people talk about it.

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2mummies1baby · 14/02/2024 13:04

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. Let yourself feel devastated, but I promise you, there is hope.

My friend had a surprise natural pregnancy at 44 (after having had three rounds of IVF to have her first child at 43!)- she had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, but got pregnant again the next month and is now 8.5 months pregnant! All scans have been fine.

My wife and I (both mid-thirties) are both rainbow babies- just think how much the science of fertility has advanced since our mums got pregnant!

2mummies1baby · 14/02/2024 13:05

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 14/02/2024 10:40

My pregnancy that was conceived the next cycle after a miscarriage is currently sat on the sofa watching crap tv, arguing that she doesn’t need to go get out of her pjs because it’s raining, half term and we have no plans, so this should be a pj tv and cake day.

I'm on her side, for what it's worth!

Firstbaby2024 · 14/02/2024 13:14

I had a miscarriage in September, fell pregnant again before another period which ended in a MMC. Because it was two miscarriages back to back there was a bit of uncertainty around dates and that made the MMC experience slightly worse, a bit of false hope around “oh your dates could just be wrong” and then also the NHS not accepting the first private scan so having to be scanned an extra time to make sure no development before I could have medical management. My cycles are still screwed up after the MMC in December.

If the same thing was to happen to me again I’d wait to have another period before trying again so I could be 100% on dates.

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RainbowHoping · 14/02/2024 13:23

2mummies1baby · 14/02/2024 13:04

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. Let yourself feel devastated, but I promise you, there is hope.

My friend had a surprise natural pregnancy at 44 (after having had three rounds of IVF to have her first child at 43!)- she had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, but got pregnant again the next month and is now 8.5 months pregnant! All scans have been fine.

My wife and I (both mid-thirties) are both rainbow babies- just think how much the science of fertility has advanced since our mums got pregnant!

This is lovely, thank you

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RainbowHoping · 14/02/2024 13:30

Firstbaby2024 · 14/02/2024 13:14

I had a miscarriage in September, fell pregnant again before another period which ended in a MMC. Because it was two miscarriages back to back there was a bit of uncertainty around dates and that made the MMC experience slightly worse, a bit of false hope around “oh your dates could just be wrong” and then also the NHS not accepting the first private scan so having to be scanned an extra time to make sure no development before I could have medical management. My cycles are still screwed up after the MMC in December.

If the same thing was to happen to me again I’d wait to have another period before trying again so I could be 100% on dates.

Really sorry to hear this x

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RainbowHoping · 14/02/2024 14:13

Just bumping this to see if anyone has any more nice stories :)

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Icequeen01 · 14/02/2024 15:25

When DH and I decided to try I fell pregnant the first month. It was a surprise as I was nearly 38 so thought it could take a while. I sadly miscarried at 13 weeks, just after I had told everyone. I ended up in hospital for a few days having blood transfusions and a D&C. The doctors told me not to wait to try again if I wanted children due to my age.

DH and I just took the view that we would just see what happens without saying we were actively trying. To be honest I was still pretty traumatised from the MC and my head was all over the place. I fell pregnant again two months later and my lovely DS is now 24 😊

Etincelle · 14/02/2024 15:36

I got pregnant straight away and baby was 9lb 3 and healthy.