To just buy husband a card for Valentines

[Turtlerunner]

Just that really. What else do you get? I buy a card but then feel rubbish if he buys flowers or a gift & I've not reciprocated. I love him, he's fab, but it just feels like nothing really fits. I'm a bit ambivalent about Valentines anyway really, we don't go out to celebrate etc too naff. Am I just a cheap miserable cow? Married 14 years.

We just do cards but we always agree beforehand that’s what we’re doing so no one feels disappointed.
we’re having a Sainsburys Dine in meal tomorrow that we picked earlier
I think it’s all a bit OTT, no grown up needs a devil teddy or heart shaped food 😂

We don't bother as we love each other every day and give or receive gifts at anytime as surprises

We used to do valentine's when we were younger but no need now, we know we love each other so a card is not necessary.
Even a gift is pointless, we are always buying each other things so a heart shaped gift on the 14th is not needed.

We get some nice food and that's about it.

Only ever done cards. Didn't know Valentine's gifts were even a thing till I was on MN.

I send a box of cupcakes to his work. It's my flowers equivalent! Have to get emough for his to share though!

No card or gifts here. We have a really good relationship day in day out so pretty much ignore being told when it’s time to be romantic.

We swap cards as we have always done for 34 years.
We never buy gifts for each other and I said decades ago that flowers are grossly overpriced at this time of year... obscenely so.

We usually get a takeaway or a Dine In meal that's easy to cook.
That and a good bit of telly suits us fine.

I'm pretty sure , but pleased to be corrected, that Valentine's cards were to be sent anonymously to the object of your desire.

It’s completely ignored in our household. Married ten years. We do nice things together every day and something extra special on our anniversary etc. I just don’t feel any connection to the concept of Valentine’s Day.

Cards, take out, flowers for me, chics for him. Jack Valentine gift for DD5.

Swap cards I get flowers (supermarket anything else is crazy) and we have our favourite meal at home nothing crazy, when we had our daughters he included a rose each for them

I forgot the card but got him chocs and something for the kitchen.

We just doing cards, flowers are just so over priced, it’s sickening. We went out once for a meal on Valentines night and found it so excruciating we’ve never done it since (been together 35 years) so it’s a Waitrose Valentine meal for two (£20) and we’re looking forward to it!

We had the same discussion last week that we’ve had for the last 5 years, along the lines of:
’We’re not doing anything for Valentine’s Day are we?’
‘No. Don’t buy anything.’
’Let’s not worry about cards either.’
‘OK, love you.’

We take great delight in completely ignoring it every year 🤣

I think it's completely fine if you are both in agreement! Not keen on all the commercialisation of it all...

We exchange cards and have an at home date night. Yes, Valentines Day is just a commercial holiday and bit naff, but when you lead busy lives and have young children, the weeks and months and years can tick by and you can forget to show enough appreciation towards one another. We consider it a good excuse to focus on us as a couple.

We don't do anything - our own anniversary matters more to us. We think Valentine's Day is for single people, and its extension to all couples is the result of cynical marketing. Call me miserable if you wish, but we're happy.

We make cards for one another each year - have done since we were poor students.

Dh will sometimes bring flowers (probably will tomorrow as the ones we had went in the recycling bin today!). But not red roses, I'd prefer some daffs or tulips and he knows this.

We have a nice meal most years. All dc currently living here have plans or work tomorrow, so might get some nice steak or salmon, something easy to cook.

We've never bothered with valentines. Don't do mother and Father's Day either.

We do cards that’s it! In the first couple of years I used to get flowers but I remember saying not to bother seemed a lot of money to spend on flowers just because it’s valentines.

We do cards, had a lovely bouquet of flowers on Monday because we're both in office today, I got him some valentines pies - he loves a pie. Exchanging a few more little presents later and going out for dinner tonight.

We sometimes have used it as an excuse for a take away but thinking more we don't really even need that excuse so we just carry on

What are your traditions around Valentines anyway? Getting a card is absolutely fine in my books as long as you're both okay with it. We don't do anything huge either, I just make a smartshow 3d video with our photos and we go out for dinner, but that can be done another day just as easily.

I think too many of us are tying ourselves in knots over Valentines Day. Yesterday afternoon I was in the garden and my DH walked past and said “I’m off to Sains for your Valentines card!”
”Please can you get some ice?”
😆

We have heart shaped boxes of chocolates at our supermarket for $1.49 or $5.

My kids get the little one, my DH the $5 one because he shares with me.

Token gift, acknowledging the day, no fuss.