To just buy husband a card for Valentines

[Turtlerunner]

Just that really. What else do you get? I buy a card but then feel rubbish if he buys flowers or a gift & I've not reciprocated. I love him, he's fab, but it just feels like nothing really fits. I'm a bit ambivalent about Valentines anyway really, we don't go out to celebrate etc too naff. Am I just a cheap miserable cow? Married 14 years.

I live in Wales Uk and my partner lives in England. Wales celebrate valentine’s day on 25th January, So there’s no valentines cards in the shops in February. My partner sent me beautiful flowers and I sent him a wattsapp gif ! I never know what to send him and i’m the most disorganised person ever ! He will treat me real good when i see him too !! I always find valentine’s day difficult.

Thanks everyone, feel more reassured now that it's not just me. Like others have said, we do nice things at any time when we feel like it so V day has no real meaning. Just hoped I wasn't becoming a miserable shrew at 53 😂

some men want a card and gift and dinner, other men feel it’s about showering the women with cards and gifts and they expect nothing back, others just want to pretend the day doesn’t exist. i guess you have to find out what he expects.
My man joked that if he didn’t give me flowers i would be giving him a long list of chores for him to do 😂

What did you think all the things in the shops were for then?

Always been "just a card" in our house - for over 30 years! Coz we know that Valentine's Day is bollocks really 🤣

A card and some mini Colin the Caterpillars! We treat each other with small things and gestures quite often...but I always feel like I should mark the occasion in a small way!

Mine is away with work and sent me a screen shot of a funny card on a text, I didn't even know it was Valentine's Day so not in the slightest bit bothered about not receiving an actual card or present.

We do cards. We’ve been together 25 years and he gets a single red rose every Valentine’s Day, I got flowers this morning. I turned down a special meal at home and we haven’t eaten out on the 14th ever.

I bought DH a beautiful patisserie shaped as rose this year. Probably the most he has got in years! I always feel Valentines is too contrived (polite for bollocks!)

It's my birthday, we don't really bother with Valentines anymore, 2 cards is a faff and a combine one looks cheap!

We've been married for 25 years, together 28 and we always buy each other a card and a small, thoughtful Valentines gift. Then, dh cooks us a special meal. We've always celebrated Valentines and we have a very happy and strong Marriage. We celebrate our love on other days and special days for us too. We enjoy Valentines but don't go ott. A pp said a friend never receives a card or gift from her husband for any celebration , even on her birthday! Only on Mn! I have never met anyone irl who would happily accept this and tell friends it's fine, because their partner doesn't, "see the point".

We just buy a card, I think that's enough.

I think its consumerist bs.

Nope, don't do Valentines...

I sent DH the tackiest valentines gif I could find on messenger

We don't bother, it's a load of nonsense

We got each other nothing this year, both of us forgot until yesterday when we agreed we wouldn’t do anything. And my husband has gone out for dinner tonight with his mates 😂 22 years together, 16 married. We’ll go out another time, we know we love each other!

We don’t bother with even cards.
He’s making a nice dinner tonight but he does that every night 😂 and we’ll eat it with dc3.

My DH is travelling abroad so I just sent him a WhatsApp message. Even if we were home together we wouldn't have done anything special. I prefer doing something on our birthdays and wedding anniversary.

Married 32 years, never done presents but always give each other a card. I'm waiting here for him to come home from work, and we're having a m&S meal deal thing, kitchen dancing and a bottle of fizz....suits us perfectly 💖
Definitely don't need a special day to tell each other we love them, but it's nice to do this x

It's just another normal day in our house, we don't even bother with cards. I think if you are going to partake then a nice card and box if chocs is more than enough.

To be honest we both cringe a little over the " spoiled rotten " posts on Facebook