Annoyed friend brought her dog in my house

[seasidelove]

Invited a friend and her family for lunch. She knows we have a cat but just walked in with the dog. I felt so awkward I didn’t say anything but really didn’t want her dog there mainly because my cat was terrified. The dog also slobbered all over the floor and left his paw prints and hair everywhere. It’s put me off inviting her here again and sort of put me off her a bit😟What would you have done?

I see your dog in the house and I raise you: Putting down her cooled mug of tea (our traditional family mugs) to let her pooch drain the remains.
I was still living at home, so they were actually my family's cups. 🤨

Nooooooooo

I love dogs but I wouldn't take mine to anyone's house without asking first. However, if you're not a dog fan I would have let them in and done the rounds with the hoover and febreze afterwards. If it was such an issue you could have asked them to leave it in the car (assuming they came by car). The cat would have been fine in another room.

How unbelievably rude! I wouldn't be happy with a large dog staying in my garden either as PP have suggested. We had that once when the dog's owners called in unexpectedly for coffee when they were passing on their walk. The weather had not been great and the grass was still soaked.We were sitting chatting over coffee and I suddenly saw lumps of soil and grass flying past my kitchen window. The dog had done it's business on my lawn and was digging to cover it up. What a mess! The owners were mortified! They haven't brought DiggyDog again, thankfully.

YABU for not saying No at the time. Dog could stay in the car, in the yard or shut in a room. She was BVU for bringing her dog without asking.

disgusting. I would have said that I am sorry but we don’t have dogs in the house. They would then have to leave it in the car or tied up outside for a while. No way would I have a dirty stinking dog in my house. I would have phrased it much more politely and apologetically though.

YABU!

You should have been assertive and insisted the dog go in the garden or stay in the car!! If you let the dog in you're not in a position to complain.

Your friend should have also asked permission as turning up with a dog is rude!

This is besides the point but can I ask why you’ve quoted the OP when you’re literally the first person to respond? Surely there’s no need to quote as you’re the first person to comment so everyone will know what it is that you’re responding too? It causes unnecessary scrolling and I’d really love to know why some people do it🫣

I don't think it is acceptable to turn up with a dog without checking first that it is ok.

We are happy for friends to bring dogs into our house, am happy to clean up slaver/ hair etc afterwards. But I do need to know in advance as we occasionally have a friend's cat to stay who struggles with dogs, and we also have friends with dog allergies who are affected for days after a dog has been in the room. With advance notice I can work around that but I don't think you can just turn up with a dog without checking it out first.

Our old dog couldn't be left but was happy to sleep in the car, so he came but after a walk was happy in the car. Our present dog wasn't happy at being left, but she would chew the car, so that wasn't an option, we got a dog behaviour guy in. We have built her up and can leave for 4-6 hours now. Any longer, and it would have to be 'sorry, you come to us instead.' I wouldn't inflict her where she isn't welcome.
Just say ' lovely to see you, but next time, please don't bring Fido or we could come to you'

My friend will ask if it’s ok she brings her dog for a visit, I normally say yes but then she knows he’s not allowed in my living room on the carpet!
I also have a cat so I make sure she’s out before they arrive.
rude of your friend not to ask. But I would have specified where it was allowed.

It was very rude of her, I probably wouldn't invite her again. How well do you know each other, did she know about the cat?
Regardless, I always ask if I can bring my dog to other people's houses, would never assume that he's welcome. I love him to bits but I don't expect other people to feel the same.

"Please can the dog stay in the car. We have a cat and we can't have dogs in the house" is what you should have said.

The first time some friends came over with their dog without asking. DH just said "you can't bring that in here we have two cats".

I would have no problem telling friends that we can't accommodate their dog.

I'd have been rude, and to the point - "get that fucking dog out of here immediately or you can both fuck off" and if (when!) she took offence, tough.

I do love dogs, and am always pleased to meet friendly dogs when I'm out and about, but not in my cats' home and the cats come first.

Why’d you let her in? No way would I have allowed a dog in the house when I had cats, they’d have been petrified. Bad move, OP, now she’s going to think you don’t mind. I wouldn’t dream of taking my dog to anyone’s house, how odd.

Nobody has ever brought a dog uninvited into my house. It seems strange to me.

I had friends many years ago whose cat was killed by a dog someone brought to their flat. I like dogs well enough but nobody wanting to bring one in would get past my door - even the small, mostly old dogs my neighbours have. This is my cats’ home.

It was very rude of her not to ask in advance.

I would have just said 'oh I'm so sorry but your dog can't come in because I've got a cat who will go mental'

It's completely mad to just bowl into somebody's house with a dog assuming it's fine

It was rude. She should’ve told you before she brought the dog and asked if it was ok.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but you should’ve said oh you brought the dog, dcat won’t like that- let’s go out instead.

(I also love and have a lab, I would never turn up with him and not ask first- if they had a cat I wouldn’t even ask!

Would have said... oh I didn't know about the dog.. its not really going to work...can you leave him in the car /tied up outside/run about in garden?
Bloody rude to just assume. I have a dog and wouldn't tolerate uninvited ones nor ever assume my dog is welcome anywhere. Mine neither sheds hair nor slobbers. Yuk.