Annoyed friend brought her dog in my house

[seasidelove]

Invited a friend and her family for lunch. She knows we have a cat but just walked in with the dog. I felt so awkward I didn’t say anything but really didn’t want her dog there mainly because my cat was terrified. The dog also slobbered all over the floor and left his paw prints and hair everywhere. It’s put me off inviting her here again and sort of put me off her a bit😟What would you have done?

I would get a new friend.

I have a dog (and a cat) and we would never take her without asking first. SIL/BIL have dogs, are pretty easy-going about animals and are happy for us (and other family members) to bring our dogs over - we still confirm it's OK every single time. I think in your shoes I would have said "what are we going to do with your dog to keep it out of the way? Shut it in a room or out in the garden?" and let her decide. I would not have had it loose in my house and would make that clear. I would also be very firm that you don't want it back.

YABU for having not said "err, where do you think the dog is going?" when she started to walk in.

Incredibly rude of her to just assume she can turn up with her dog.

Some time ago someone turned up at my house with their very large male dog and wanted to put him in my very small garden where, doubtless. he would have wandered around peeing everywhere to mark the area.

I refused to let them because the smell the dog would have left would have freaked out my small female dog and made her not want to go into her own garden.

I no longer have cats but I know without a doubt they would have been terrified if a strange dog turned up and came into their territory.

Very awkward situation for you but there's no way I'd let someone just walk into my house with their dog.

What an odd thing for them to have done. I would have just told them that the dog can't come inside. I have dogs, so I couldn't allow an unknown dog in the house without preparing beforehand. I wouldn't take mine to other people's houses for the same reason - other pets, not liking dogs, not wanting a dog in the house for any reason really.

If your friend came a long way, did they drive? If so, the dog could have stayed in the car.

Next time suggest her place. Borrow a goat and take it with you.... Once took dpuppy to bff's home as per the invite.. Dpuppy disgraced herself on bff's new rug..
We weren't invited back!!
Lucky you just got slobber and paw prints ime.

I have a cat and if this happened to me I'd probably make a fuss about needing to separate the dog from the cat at least. You're angry because you didn't say anything at the time so now it will just fester.

Our in laws said they were on their way to ours once “oh and we’ve got the dog”. I got my husband to message and say no dogs allowed in our house as we have two cats.
Our cats would have been petrified, and the smell of the dog would have meant they sprayed everywhere where there was dog smell. They’ve never asked again and good… it’s so presumptuous

@seasidelove I cant understand people who take their dogs when they go to visit people! especially knowing that there is a cat! I have never taken my dogs to visit anyone due to the very reasons you have stated

I'd have told her 'sorry, this is strictly a dog-free house' before she crossed the threshold.

While it was rude of her why the heck you didn't say something like 'oh sorry Susan you can't bring Fido in here we have a cat who hates dogs'. She could have given him a little walk and left him in the car.

This thread has reminded me of my mum's dog pissing on my carpet, and how I will need to expressly ban it from future visits due to new cat...

Grow a backbone and tell her to get her dog out! What do you expect to achieve out of complaining on here? Some people

This reminds me of a lunch I went to last year. We were all waiting for one of the guest’s wife who had to stop home after work and arrived incredibly late, husband came on time separately.

The host (wife) went to open the door for her and entered the dining room a little wide eyed. I thought maybe the guest arrived in a see-through number or something, but she came with her cat in a carrier. She stopped before entering and before anyone could stop her she let it loose in the house. The kids (4 between 2 and 6) went nuts and the cat hid under some heavy furniture.

She said ‘I kept it a secret from my husband in case he wanted to stop me from bringing her, but why shouldn’t she also enjoy an outing?’

In the end they struggled to get the cat out, it scratched both of them badly and the owner screamed at the kids that they terrified her cat and now she has deep scratches.

Nobody else in the group ever owned or liked pets.

I can’t believe people are having a go at you , what were you supposed to do once they’d travelled all that way here?

Dog lovers assume that everyone loves their stinky hound, she’s a cheeky fucker

Rude! Don't invite her again

I'd have immediately said the dog had to be shut into the laundry room as it would terrifying the cat otherwise. I wouldn't invite this guest again.

"Hang on, I'll open the side so the dog can stay in the garden."

Your poor cat.
Do you have DC? Are you as much of a wet lettuce when it comes to protecting their best interests? Woman up ffs.

Yabu to have let them if you really didn’t want to. Get some grown up pants.

I love dogs and would be delighted to have one visit me, but OF COURSE people should ask if it's OK first. It's incredibly rude to just bring a dog round without checking. I'd never have done this when I had dogs, not in a million years!

If you invite her round again, definitely say "Sorry, you will have to leave the dog at home this time, though, as it really freaked out my cat last time - not just when the dog was here, but also afterwards because the cat could still smell him."

Did friend realise that you didn’t want the dog brought?

I voted YABU but only because you were too scared to stick up for your own pet and not allow a dog in!

No way would I allow my cat to be uncomfortable in their own home because I was too wet to say anything!

I would have asked her to keep the dog in the car (because in February it's absolutely fine) or told her to leave it in the garden via back door.

It's harder to backtrack now you have let her bring it in. But would have THE conversation for next time.

I have dogs, but I would never take them to friends homes uninvited.

Same thing happened to me OP. My friend didn’t tell me she was bringing her dog. She only lives about 30 mins away so I wasn’t expecting it. When I opened the door she was there with her dog and I genuinely wouldn’t have minded if it was a small thing. This was a very very large breed of dog who slobbers absolutely everywhere. Let her in but kept her at the door. I’m not a dog lover and I have cats, so if she thought I was rude, I didn’t care as I was matching her ignorance for bringing it in the first place