Seriously though, how can it be overlooked that for several thousand years (give or take) we have collectively, men and women, been fed an archaic narrative that women were designed to be the help meet and dick receptacle for the "perfection" of men?
And the push back against that narrative in the West because science / rationalism / enlightenment has only been going on for about a century ? Elsewhere that narrative is still thoroughly embraced and keeps seeping back through - look at incel culture, trad wives, the way we are institutionally gas-lit to internalise our feelings about injustice still being perpetrated by men against women?
As others have noted, we're encouraged to blame other women first for "settling" for less than ideal men.
So many threads on here, about terrible things that men do are met with NAMALT,
and while objectively that may be true, my personal experience over 55 years is that even the good ones, like my late DP, who would call himself a feminist, could revert to Victorian Northern Dad in moments if frustration. It's unbelievably deep rooted, and so often once again women are expected to unpick and fix it for themselves, their menfolk, their children.
On the surface, on paper, women are allegedly better off now due to legislation and initiatives designed to promote "equality" but in real life the old tropes about women being over emotional, hyoer-sensitive, needy, deceitful and manipulative are still there. It's just more subtle these days in a lot of cases.
Think if that song - "Why can't a woman be more like a man?"
And then what happens when a woman is more like a man? Well, obviously that's wrong too.
Honestly, I don't know what the answer is, but as a very bitter and cynical widow, I'm almost glad I'm now out of the game so to speak. My DP was my Holy Grail, and the thought of having to puppy train another candidate is making me fully embrace crazy cat lady vibes moving forward.