Is a 4 hour round trip too much for contact?

[Soberthoughts]

I hate exdp and everything he does so really need some perspective on this. Ex is extremely unreliable. Will see the dc for 1 or 2 nights per month. He moved 100 miles away a few months ago but was travelling closer for contact. He has now bought a car and wants to take dc back to his new place for contact. The journey there takes 2 hours, so would drive them 2 hours on a Saturday back to his, then 2 hours home again on Sunday. He has no ties to new location. Found a new job there 3 months ago and will most likely quit that soon ( when cms catch up to him)

I work full time so dc are in wrap-around childcare all week. They are usually exhausted by the weekend so I know this extra travelling time will wipe them out. Would ibu to say he can only have them once every 3 weeks? Or is my hatred of him clouding my judgement? Dc are 7 and 10 years old.

Kids will love it, mine used to love a good road trip.

It's a hell of a journey for your ex, so I doubt it'll happen that often anyway, if he's flaky now it'll not be a long term thing.

What do the children want?

2 hours will be fine. It takes me an hour to travel 12 miles to work sometimes.

My ex lives 3 hours away and the kids valued that 1:1 time with him in the car. And on the way back it gave them time to decompress with me so they were chilled before getting home.

And yes, I hate my ex with a furious passion, but completely supported his contract with them.

He’ll soon stop once the 4 hour round trips for him twice a weekend take their toll.