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Is this what 99% of mumsnetters homes look like

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Damaged27 · 12/02/2024 14:22

After all these interior design threads this is what I'm imagining everyone on mumsnets homes look like. Just curious if I'm way off because iv never been in a home like this. Maybe if the person is in their 80s. Do people really have bookshelves?

Is this what 99% of mumsnetters homes look like
Is this what 99% of mumsnetters homes look like
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Wimpeyspread · 12/02/2024 18:19

I couldn’t settle in a house without books on shelves! My house has bookshelves, armchairs, old wooden bureau, carpets - also cat tower, ikea chairs, big TV, sewing machines, crochet blankets, colourful cushions and random knitting paraphernalia (and cats)

JanisMoplin · 12/02/2024 18:19

ElaineMBenes · 12/02/2024 18:16

Plus, I bet most of the books just sit on the shelf doing nothing once you have read them. Your life would be no different if they weren't there.

Actually I think I'd be miserable.
I like looking at my books and bookshelves. Just having them in my house brings me joy.

Same. They hold all my memories.

Some of them are gifts from my dad- long gone. I have passed on my old books to my DC.

I don't care much about clothes or handbags or shoes- and I have no hand me downs-but books bring me endless joy.

cariadlet · 12/02/2024 18:20

ZebraPensAreLife · 12/02/2024 17:58

For those people who have the floor to ceiling bookshelves, doesn’t it make you feel claustrophobic? I always hated the university library as it felt really closed-in. I prefer things to be at or below head height, or at least to be able to see the top of the shelves.

I haven't got floor to ceiling bookcases but I have tabletop height to ceiling bookshelves in the alcoves either side of the fireplace in one of our rooms.

They don't go down to the floor because on one side of the fireplace, there's a unit with a few drawers and on the other side, the settee is right next to the shelves so books on low shelves would be inaccessible.

I don't feel claustrophobic at all. I love sitting on the settee and looking up at the books. There are probably a few hundred (with more in other rooms).

My DH isn't a reader and I love that he made the bookshelves for me.

dimllaishebiaith · 12/02/2024 18:20

Twopea · 12/02/2024 18:04

Mocking people's belief in the Bible is not ok

Posting that you can pray away the gay is far more dangerous, which is what that poster has done previously...

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 12/02/2024 18:20

I'm getting to the age where re-reading old books has become comforting, and I'm hugely glad that I kept some of my books from the past that I never thought I'd read again. Dipping into half-remembered words that I'd forgotten I ever read is familiar yet new, and it's a lovely feeling.

BusyMummy001 · 12/02/2024 18:21

Yep - I have a study/library with about 2000 books. But I’ve a BA and MA in English, BSc in pychology and am doing a phd in creative writing, so books are seriously my thing… My teens also have shelves full of books in their rooms too, mainly YA, manga and graphic novels though.

But my house does not look as American/dated as the images above though!

Milsteen · 12/02/2024 18:21

Tetsuo · 12/02/2024 15:04

I do find the desperate rush to demonstrate how many books you are hoarding to be a little cringeworthy.

Physical books are not morally superior to their digital siblings for the most part.

Having 1000s of shitty paper-backs languishing on Billy bookcases does not an intellectual make.

Yes! I agree.

SweetBirdsong · 12/02/2024 18:21

easylikeasundaymorn · 12/02/2024 16:52

These threads always sporn hundreds of MNers falling over themselves to post about how much they judge homes without visible books/tvs bigger than their bookshelves etc. All with a considerable air of cultural and intellectual superiority..

Yet surprisingly all this reading hasn't given them the ability to consider
-how often do you see beyond the living room and toilet of most peoples homes

  • the majority of people who read frequently have some sort of electronic device -they could read a classic a day and not have any physical evidence in their front rooms
  • lots of people listen to audio books, use the library or read once and then donate to avoid clutter.
  • not reading does not equal unintelligent
  • having books on display does not equal them being "good" books or even that they've ever been read

But yes carry on smugging 😁

Edited

Do you want a wheelbarrow to help you carry that chip on your shoulder @Damaged27 ?? Wink

Tangled123 · 12/02/2024 18:23

I have a bookshelf in our spare room for textbooks and files, and a bookshelf in my daughter’s room for her books.

I don’t have a bookshelf for novels (although I do have some books), and my house looks nothing like the picture.
I really want built in shelves beside the fireplace though.

SOBplus · 12/02/2024 18:24

BusyMummy001 · 12/02/2024 18:21

Yep - I have a study/library with about 2000 books. But I’ve a BA and MA in English, BSc in pychology and am doing a phd in creative writing, so books are seriously my thing… My teens also have shelves full of books in their rooms too, mainly YA, manga and graphic novels though.

But my house does not look as American/dated as the images above though!

I don't think those pictures look remotely like american rooms 🤔

Nevermind31 · 12/02/2024 18:27

I’m an avid reader but we don’t have books anymore (other than children’s books) - it’s all on the kindle - the bookshelves took up too much space… my parents have lots and lots of bookshelves crammed with books…

Billyvoo · 12/02/2024 18:30

We are buried in books… on shelves, next to the bed, piled on the coffee table.
we have a mid-century vibe in our place.

ghostyslovesheets · 12/02/2024 18:31

This is my less booky bookcase and a catty cabinet

Is this what 99% of mumsnetters homes look like
Is this what 99% of mumsnetters homes look like
DragonFly98 · 12/02/2024 18:31

sunglassesonthetable · 12/02/2024 16:54

I said out of print/academic not "out of print academic books. ". Maybe if you read more you would have noticed that key difference.

oh stop being tedious @DragonFly98 This isn't a re typing test.

We all got the gist.

Clearly not as I did not mention out of print academic books.

dancinginthewind · 12/02/2024 18:33

Our sitting room is similar to the second picture but without such nice lamps or objects as DH hates both.
What I've realised recently is that my bookshelves have been static for about the past decade. They used to be constantly evolving as I bought books, lent them to friends and so on. Now, though, anything new I read tends to be on my kindle and of course that means lending & borrowing is a thing of the past.
Also, DH and I being avid readers has had no impact whatsoever on the DC. They would rather game, watch TV, be on social media & so on

GetWhatYouWant · 12/02/2024 18:35

bingoringo4 · 12/02/2024 17:31

Good god no. Too much clutter

Do you have ornaments, vases, objects that mean something to you in your rooms? Books are no more clutter than those. I can't get my head round people who refer to books as clutter.

crumblingschools · 12/02/2024 18:35

Quite a few children come to school not knowing what a book is. This is why I find it depressing when people say books are clutter. Likewise people who struggle to have toys out and kiddies pictures on the walls/fridge. Having things out that bring you joy is what makes a home and makes it your home. I miss the half completed lego models, car races set up on the living room rug etc now DC are at university.

Having a house with nothing personal on show, could be anyone's house and not a home.

When DM moved after DF died and down sized, once she had put out pictures, books and ornaments that she had kept from their previous house/family home, it felt like home again and brought her comfort.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 12/02/2024 18:35

Damaged27 · 12/02/2024 17:19

Yeah money and success isn't something I'm particularly interested in. And even if I won the lottery tomorrow my children would not be privately educated under any circumstances. But I suppose this is how people are different

You don’t need money, success or a private education to be into reading ffs. I grew up in council temporary housing and always had a little stash of books from the charity shop. It was an escape. So yes I do like to have books around especially for my kids. I wouldn’t class books as clutter. And having bookshelves isn’t for the over 80s!!

WerewolfBarMitzvahSpookyScary · 12/02/2024 18:36

dimllaishebiaith · 12/02/2024 18:20

Posting that you can pray away the gay is far more dangerous, which is what that poster has done previously...

I thought I recognised the username.

Assuming that the poster isn't a trill, anyone who promotes that toxic bull deserves no sympathy.

Trulyme · 12/02/2024 18:36

I have a very small bookshelf in my bedroom but I tend to borrow books from the library (I don’t like clutter and they’re free) and so I don’t have a lot of books in my home at one time.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 12/02/2024 18:36

Is this true? What good are the books doing if they don't read them?

Presumably it's a reasonably accurate proxy for class, and parental level of education, plus it normalises reading as an activity. Obviously it's more important that the child actually reads though!

GreigeO · 12/02/2024 18:36

5thCommandment · 12/02/2024 17:08

"Not really a reader". *Oh OP...
*
I've never understood this mindset. Genuinely sad for you on this.

Gently, reading is a gift. For pleasure but more so education.

I read every day, usually around my work subject field, to be as up to speed as possible. Knowledge really is power. I learn stuff, apply it at work, teach the staff, get recognised as a fundamentally important staff member and wages just go up up up.

Your call, but you're just letting yourself down otherwise. I'm on 142k now at 39yrs old and hungry for more. Reading is absolutely key to that success.

I really think a thirst for knowledge and reading needs promoting from a young age and this is where private schooling makes the difference.

Then there's reading for pleasure - I prefer the papers, or articles in my field, or random stuff like how to germinate avocados - it meant we could do it with the kids and now they're growing plants. Reading isn't just books, I actually can't stand novels, but reading... so important....

Oh god, I don't think I've ever read anything that's made me want to read less!!! Grin

BlueFlint · 12/02/2024 18:37

Oh dear. Yes we have those exact bookshelves and yes, our house does look a bit like that... I am not 80.

Harrysmummy246 · 12/02/2024 18:37

Damaged27 · 12/02/2024 14:25

Not really a reader but on occasion I read its either kindle app or I pass books over

We have bookcases. They are full, DH buys more, fills them, cycle continues

PurpleFlower1983 · 12/02/2024 18:37

Our large bookshelves are in our attic office but we have a bookshelf downstairs too. Minimalist white and grey is not to my taste but I’m sure my Victorian house would not be to your taste either. Everyone is different!