Oh my days is the most twee phrase ever

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Just that. AIBU?

South London is universally accepted= black.
Social Worker and teacher friends would talk about south london churches in the 90’s and meant families where the children were tired on a Monday because they’d been family socialising until late on Sunday.
ie not ideal but not of concern.

I might start saying it, twee or not. I can't see how it is offensive, which four letter words or blaspheming is. I do tend to swear a lot, which is not acceptable in front of the grandchildren!

I wouldn’t call it twee, just profoundly irritating.
But then I’m a fully paid up Grumpy Old Hag who finds so many things profoundly irritating. 🙂

I don’t think it’s twee at all
underused, possibly

Actually I take back what I said about it always being aggressive. It can be used in an aggressive way… followed by something along the lines of “who the fuck do you think you are?”. It can also be used in other milder ways to express annoyance or surprise. It is definitely not twee though.

I am actually quite surprised to see how many people have said they think it sounds twee. It seems surprising to me that there are that many people who don’t really interact with speakers of Multicultural London English or Multicultural Urban British English, where the phrase regularly features. I know that as a Londoner I will obviously hear it a lot but I also hear slang from other parts of the UK regularly too.

@Lamelie yes I know, I just hate those euphemisms, like there’s something bad or shameful to be hidden. ‘Urban’ likewise, though it depends who’s using it I guess.

plus I doubt most MNers from Beverley or whatever will get it 😁

Oh yes. Picky tea gives me hives...

I hate it. But that's mainly because as a teen another teen used to constantly say in a really whiny exagerated voice 'oooohhh ma daiss'

Yeah, I don't think you'd think it was 'twee' if you had the slightest clue about how it's usually used in real life.

Sorry, not sorry grinds my gears too. And also when people say things like 'have kids they said, it will be fun they said'. I just cannot.

Shut the front door means revelation/surprise, not stfu. Poorly meaning Ill was the original meaning as in inadequate.

I agree that sometimes posters don't bother to Google original meanings and who used them. I've heard poorly a lot in Yorkshire/Lancashire and there's a lot of words that haven't died out. As well as a lack of knowledge on language evolution, it's like posters don't appreciate the right to hang on to local dialects and old English. I'm surprised gotten hasn't come up again. I'll never stop using it.

Yes, it's just snobbery.

Ironically, sneering at other people's dialects and colloquialisms and non-standard English is something that really just highlights the sneerer's own ignorance.

I CAME HERE TO SAY HOW MUCH I HATE THE WORD POORLY.

It just sounds so pathetic. If someone describes themselves or their child as “feeling poorly” I think they sound ridiculous. Just say sick or unwell.

See also - describing hot things as “burny” 😡😡😡

My DD says it all the time! She's 23.

The only kinds of people I've ever heard say "oh my days" were the kind of kids that were the ones that pretended they grew up on a council estate but really they lived in lovely Victorian terraced houses near the estate. Grew up in London, but not saaaarf of the river 😉

I just said it out loud in my best but terrible strong Yorkshire accent and it sounded quite delightful 😆

Another of mine is “I just cannot” - you cannot do what? Are you asking for help?

You are surprised that people from say Inverness will not come across London slang regularly? 😂

Thats the most London thing I’ve ever heard.

I’m midlands and hear it a lot.

I’ve used it instead of swearing in front of my DC about something.

My Trinidadian babysitter used to say it in the 90s. She was such a babe and I wanted to be her so I started saying it for a few months when I was eight. In NE Scotland 🫣

QuillBill Why? Isn't that how people learn things by asking about stuff they don't know about ? OP said she's never heard it IRL. Should she just ignore it instead of commenting and learning from the responses. What's wrong with that?

@Ponoka7 I've heard people say stfu as an expression of surprise too. I think this is where tone of voice probably matters lots of phrases can sound aggressive or not, depending upon how they are spoken.

"It seems surprising to me that there are that many people who don’t really interact with speakers of Multicultural London English or Multicultural Urban British English,"

@Takoneko Lots of people in the UK don't live in cities though, so the slang we hear regularly is different.

This isn’t the only example of this… but I’m really cringing at all the MNetters trying to show how gangsta they are by informing us how they always hear this in their circles and we just wouldn’t understand 😂😂

It was used a lot as an alternative for OMG in the church I used to go to (NW).

It is super league Cringe. Another annoying one is people pompously announcing ' Know that xyz....'

Like they were Nebuchadnezzar writing his laws on a stone tablet and not someone complaining about the neighbours blocking their drive.

I've never heard it in real life, only the internet, but it doesn't strike me as twee, it's just a phrase, probably regional.

My pet hates are nom, nom and yummy. I stopped saying poorly, after reading Mumsnet judginess on it, but it's a word I hear all the time in Lancashire.