Two weekends out in a row?

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As a mother/parent, would you class it as being unreasonable to have two weekends out in a row? (As a one off!)

Me and DP have two children together (DD 5, DS 18 months). I’ve exclusively breastfed both until 15 months and so that meant it was harder to ever leave them for an evening when they were younger, nor did I actually want too so I wasn’t as fussed back then. However now DS has started to get a bit older I’ve found myself making a little bit more time for me and the past couple months I’ve gone out for around one eve a month with friends for a drink etc. DP hates me going out and is always a bit cold with me when I do, he’s not very sociable and so chooses to rarely go out himself (I’ve never stopped him, actually encourage him too). We don’t normally row about it however and he will be ok again the next day, this was until this weekend anyways. I ended up going out for the eve last weekend due to some of the school mums going for a drink - we are relatively new to our Village and I don’t know anyone particularly well and so I did want to go to try maybe get a bit closer with some of the mums! Had a really lovely time, kept in contact with DP all eve and was home by a sensible time. He was however still cold with me when I came in, fine the next day however. Fast forward to this weekend and a friend had tickets for a concert that she’d got ages ago and I had promised to go with her as we hadn’t done anything childfree since before I had my son. So we went and again had a lovely time, kept in contact all night - even to the point of making it a mission to find a quiet place to call to let him know that the 4G wasn’t working the first half the night so if he needed me make sure he sent a text or ring and not iMessage as they wouldn’t come through. Left exactly when I said I would and because he didn’t want me staying at my friends house as he wanted me home, I had to walk through a rough area of the city alone at night to get the last bus back. Then when I get through the door he goes off on one telling me that I am taking the piss going out all the time and that normal mums don’t go out that much, quizzing me on if I was ‘speaking to any guys’ making me swear on our children's hearts, when I admitted my friend was talking to a guy but I just said a quick hi to be polite then kept my distance and enjoyed the music, he started saying stuff like ‘so I’ve been looking after our children whilst you’ve been off talking to guys all night’. He was then also pissy due to ‘expecting a bit’ when I got home which I gave in too but wasn’t exactly frilled as felt like crap and had done 31,000 steps!! I just felt like I couldn’t of done anything more to of kept him happy but it still wasn’t enough. BUT was I taking the piss or is he being an arse?

Thank you everyone for your support. The ironic thing is that I’ve always been 100% faithful to him throughout the 7 years we’ve been together, not ever given him the tiniest reason to not trust me. He however has his 11 year old son, so my DSS. When me and DP first started our relationship, about 6 months in he ended up sleeping with DSS’s mother again. Little naive 20 year old me should of 100% of left his ass then (although obviously now grateful for my children). So for the last 6 and a half years I’ve had to deal with him going to the exact place he cheated on me with, with the exact same person he did it with - twice a week (he does pick up and drop off) and I’ve never ever made things difficult, as that would obviously ultimately affect DSS.
and @Lurkingandlearning you are definitely right. A lot of my friends would be very glad to hear I’ve left him for good! It’s just I don’t live very near to a lot of my close friends now and I also don’t drive, live in a semi rural area without the best public transport so I feel a bit stuck in a way. My mum is also going through chemo unfortunately so as good of a mum as she is, I don’t want to stress her out/ask anything of her. When I return to University in September I am going to make it top of my list of priorities to learn how to drive.

Gods sake why are you even asking, of course what you’re doing is fine, but his behaviour is totally inappropriate.

Where on MN would anyone say someone that had 2 nights out in 2 weeks is a bad father. I agree there are double standards but not to that extent.

I bet you live in his house, as well, don't you? Rural location, no public transport - just WHY do women do this to themselves? Please, please prioritise learning to drive above everything else.