to want to tell friends DH she is shagging a guy at the Gym?

[MrsBooBaLu]

or should I mind my own? He is a lovely sweet guy (her DH that is) so feel really sorry for him. They have 3 young DC's all under the age of 6. Would you tell or not??

Yes, who can blame her, indeed.

This is what happened to my poor dh. He had four kids, a stable marriage, she starts going to the gym, checks out the owner of said gym, and starts an affair.

We don't do gyms in our family It's a euphemism for going out for a shag!

Oh Desi... sorry, I was being flippant

Hope you're not offended.....

I think I'm going to join a gym!!

I would never tell and I would tell her I didnt want her to talk to me about it as well. Mind you my friends husband was shagging someone behind her back and when she found out she never spoke to me again because she thought I knew and didnt tell her - I didnt know. There is no right way in this sort of situation IME. Put your head in the sand and hope it all sorts itself out.

Exactly ALMummy, if you tell she might be angry, but if you don't she might still be angry in this case 'he'.

I would tell her in no uncertain terms that she is putting her marriage and family at serious risk and ask if she's thought it through. That's all. I wouldn't tell the DH.

i would not tell unless she was a close friend. How do you know he is a nice guy (her dh) he might be a complete fuckwit to her! You should not judge a book by its cover and not pry into other peoples business until asked to imho

Agree with mehdismummy: you can't tell what's going in someone else's home.

You can tell her you don't want to know about it, if you wish.

WallofSilence, I'm not remotely offended! Apologies, indeed, if you thought I was being prickly.

She was a materialistic old cow, and he's much better off with me

Oooohh! I thought you meant your dh left you for a gym bunny!

It is utter bollocks to care if everyone knew except you if your OH was having an affair. You would have bugger things to worry about believe me!

I would want to know. The worst thing imo is being made a fool of. There are many people who prefer to live in ignorance however.

I'd say if he was a good friend you were close to and you cared about him (as a friend, don't misinterpret me!) then that'd be more of a case for finding a way to tell him than if you didn't really know him too well but you were judging her for being a slapper and wanted her to get her 'comeuppance', iyswim.

Nab what a typo!

LOL

sorry.

3nab is right, i would imagine the last thing on his mind would be who knew and who didnt

there is nothing to gain by telling him, it will only cause pain and heartache that is not your place to bring

i wish i had the energy to go to the gym! Thanks desi its nice to know you are about

i've never been to a gym

well i have but not to actually do anything

If the affair ends and the wronged husband never finds out, less harm will be done than if some one tells him and puts the cat among the pigeons.

On the other hand, if the adulterous wife catches a nasty disease or gets pg, it could affect the whole family whether or not any one has told the husband what's going on.

Why did she tell you? Boasting about her exciting double life? I would tell her that I thought less of her for it and point out that it puts you in an awkward position re her DH.
Whether you tell him or not is a question of your loyalty to him.

That is a tricky one! I have a friend who i cant decide if she is or isnt shagging her gym instructor. She is making lots of comments and is forever talking about him. We have a friend in common and neither of us can decide whether to confront her about it. Her dh is completely oblivious to it and i dont htink he would believe us if we told him.

It's not a nice position to be in and i really hope that you can find the answer to your question.