to want to tell friends DH she is shagging a guy at the Gym?

[MrsBooBaLu]

or should I mind my own? He is a lovely sweet guy (her DH that is) so feel really sorry for him. They have 3 young DC's all under the age of 6. Would you tell or not??

mind your own. unless you have caught them in flagrante delicto, you don't know 100% they are shagging.

She definitely is shagging him from what she has said.

Anyway Thanks for your advice. I don't think I will say anything, only because the DC's are so young and I wouldn't want them to be without a Dad. It's just I feel sorry for the man.

She does know, expat. The woman told her.

This is not a new quandary, but the advice remains the same. Say nothing. The truth will come out eventually .. but it's up to the married couple to dictate just when and how that happens.

Either he'll work it out, or she will tell him. Let the kids enjoy their parents for a little while longer, eh?

agree with desi

So a woman has 3 young kids, goes to the gym, MNs & also has time for an affair

I'm in awe!!!!!!

WallofSilence, I know, I don't know where she gets her energy from?

kama, I think that too, but from what people have said on here its best not to say anything. I guess he will find out eventually (hopefully anyway).

But I just don't get what business it is of yours.... is she hurting you? Are you jealous?

Personally if I knew one of my friends were having an affair I wouldn't want to be the one to tell her dh.

You know if you tell him your friendship with her will be finished?

I'd feel more sorry for the guy if he KNEW.

Yes I realise that WoS but how would you like it if your DH was shagging someone else and all your mates knew about it except you? How humiliating is that?

i wouldn't let on about her fancy man.the dynamics between couples are always complex, imo keep out

if you wish make it clear to her

• you wont discuss the affair
• wont provide alibi

You are right littlelapin, I am not great friends with this woman. I have known her for years but we are not best mates, her DD goes to school with mine. We go to the Gym together and I noticed her friendliness with one particular guy there, she then confessed. I knew though, it was obvious tbh.

picture it lycra-clad-adulterous-gym-bunny "aye make that tea and man to go"

She only confessed to me because she knew I had my suspicions. No one else knows AFAIK.

Does all his mates know then?

Oooh, I hate gyms!

If no-one else knows then she would know it was you told her dh.

Let her get on with it.

Anyway... her dh probably farts in bed...who can blame her for looking at the gym adonis!

No one else knows as far as I know littapin. Hyperthetically how would you or anyone else feel if everyone else knew? That;s what I meant. I would be distraught and embarrassed.

i knew my cousin was cheating on his (then pregnant) long-term gf, i also knew the girl he was cheating with...i told him that if it didn't stop i'd tell her!! he stopped and he's never mentioned it again.

Keep well out of it. You have no idea what's going on in their marriage, sweet guy or not. If you really can't hold back, tell her you know, not him. But would keep out of it if you can.