So this morning my daughter (3) was upset because I’d said that I had to go to work today. She asks me most mornings if I have to work, I think because I don’t have set days off.
She shouted sobbing that she didn’t want mummy and “I don’t love mummy I love daddy”.
When I got home my wife let me know that she’s apparent said repeatedly “I don’t like/love/want mummy I like/love/want daddy.”
About a year ago mum was pregnant with our second and struggled particularly in the morning so I shifted to evening work for a bit and would take our daughter out to the park/playgroup etc, and return after lunchtime and leave for work.
It was good for her to socialise and if I stayed at home she wouldn’t want me she’d only want mummy so we’d leave in the morning while mummy was having a lie in and she was happy thinking mummy was sleeping in while we were at the park or shops or whatever.
Now I’m worried that I’ve become the primary parent and it’s causing issues because I work so much. Am I being unreasonable to think I’ve caused this by spending too much time with her?