Who should pay?

[BlackBean2023]

Child is finishing exams late June this year. There are other children in the family so can't go on holiday outside of term time.

Grandparent has booked a holiday with DC (16) for a week at beginning of July. Their suggestion, their choice of destination, their choice of dates.

Who foots the bill for DC?

Where are they going? What country?
It seems a bit bizarre that you didn't have any information about the holiday.
£800 is a lot of money, is it a 5 star hotel? Can it be changed to somewhere cheaper?

Well I’d be offering the payment for my child, but if my parents had offered to take child they’d pay. But I would always offer payment for my child

I think she should pay.

I think it’s really cheeky to arrange this then ask for money.

Ifs your dm has booked this with no discussion with you about payment/budget I'd say it's her responsibility. I'd offer an amount (if you can afford to) or suggest she cancels.

Wow that's awkward

If it's booked through Jet2 or Easyjet holidays it can be cancelled at this stage with a small loss of around £60 per person. I'd offer to pay that as an option as clearly there has been a misunderstanding over who is paying and you would never have agreed to pay this much.

@BlackBean2023 wow! that is a heck of a lot of money for a holiday for one child! where the hell are the going??? Pretty sure that you would not have booked a holdiday for your family if the holiday cost £800 each! you have other children to cater for too if you go on holiday and that cost removed from family budget might not leave much left for a holiday for everyone else!

That's bizarre - your DM has talked previously about taking her grandchild on holiday but now expects you to pay?

"Sorry Mum, when you said you'd like to "take her on holiday, it implied you'd be paying. We can't afford that."

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If they’ve just gone ahead and booked it then they should be paying
you don’t spend other peoples money like that by booking random holidays and then charging them
so if they ask for money, I would consider that very tight

What! If your DM invited DD and made all the arrangements without consulting you or mentioning money, it is reasonable to think it is her treat.

It’s a bit late now to start asking for a contribution.