Housing advice please

[Xmummy2X]

Good evening all

So i am after advice for housing issues im currently in privately rented property and i do love it but rent is very high partner was due to move in with me also but changed his mind at last minute and said couldn't risk being homeless etc so never moved in so not sure where we stand as still angry and couldn't back out else would been homeless etc long story which wont go into have 8 year old autistic child with severe anxiety doesn't leave the house and 18 year old girl full time college so had to receive benefits etc which agency doesn't know any of this been here year now can't work due to son disabilities and i have disabilities fibromyalgia etc and mental health much worse since lost mum in October

So whats looming over my head is any time i could be given section 21 or if rent goes up i really wouldn't manage i have cut right back don't own car or anything every night lie awake thinking the worst or what would happen and its making me ill does anyone know if be able to get on council list or if i would stand a chance please

Sorry for long post and thank you so much for reading this far if you did 🙏

You can go on the list to see but priority wouldn't be high

Anyone can go on a council list but your chance of getting a property sorted quickly depends on a number of factors e. g how many others are on the list, how many are classed as higher priority than you, how often properties become available etc. Social housing is in very short supply pretty much everywhere in the country.

You can go on the list - the council won't encourage you to because they would rather not have even longer lists but you certainly can get on the housing list for your local council.

However you won't be very high priority as you are adequately housed at the moment.
But maybe it will make you feel better knowing you are on the list.

What council area is it?

Thank you so much for replying maybe need to contact them and get a form or something then thank you so much

Oxfordshire area i am in

Thank you for replying with no judgement

Can you get help from Social Services or whatever agency is already helping you to assist with getting council housing.I do feel for you

You fit all the description of need of social help. Ask for it, start the ball rolling

I work in this sector, (specialist in a different area however as part of my role i can place those in NEED of housing in a higher banding all over England and Scotland)

Anyone can apply for housing accommodation, be that council, housing association or private rental, if you meet the housing criteria of the housing application you will then be placed on their housing bidding system. (Most are bidding systems now)

As you have a home and haven’t been served a S21 you will be placed on the lowest priority banding.

Your families medical background would not be taken into consideration to place you in higher banding as you wouldn’t not meet the criteria as not in NEED of rehousing.

South Oxfordshire: apply to housing register here
https://www.southoxon.gov.uk/south-oxfordshire-district-council/housing/social-housing-and-join-the-housing-register/

West Oxfordshire: https://www.westoxon.gov.uk/housing/apply-for-housing/

North Oxfordshire/Cherwell https://www.cherwell.gov.uk/info/78/housing-options/225/apply-to-join-the-housing-register

You can go on the list, when applying you can state why social housing is particularly important to you eg medical issues, anxiety. You then will be assigned a priority level, it won't be high but should your current housing situation change you are already on the list, and sometimes lower priority do get houses

I dont get any help from anyone thats just it my only support network was my mum so never gave up for her and now she gone we have nothing its disgusting no wonder so many suicides etc and people are really judgemental im the most kindest and genuine person you will ever meet but no one wants to know me or get to know me and sees me as a bum thats far from the case i get looked down on where i live just so bloody depressing i cry every night but am grieving still i wanted my kids to be happy and have stable roof over there head thats all i want i don't care about me

Hi OP,

You sound like you're having a bad time. Could you have a chat with your GP? And try and get some support from social services? With the housing list you.might as well be on it, and then if if anything happens you're already on the list.

Thank you all so much going to have to stop this anxiety and get the ball rolling as someone mentioned mine and my sons needs wont be taken into consideration which is really wrong as we couldn't survive in flat my son anxiety so bad he dont leave the house the only time is to go and sit in garden some times so couldn't take that away from him 😥😥🙏🙏 i will just continue to prayer my dad is grieving badly and only has one bed bungalow and my brother already stay there sometimes and sister has kids and not enough room i have looked at caravans and allsorts i am looking for work from home job as my son needs me and i can't go out due to my conditions but there really is no home jobs its just awful the whole crisis in England whats happened

@Spanglemum75 really having awful time just keep getting suicidal thoughts and just hate living like this my parents gave me everything and never worried and i cant give that to my children i have spoke to gp they dont really do anything just put me on more medication and social services are really crap they come and say your child isn't neglected or being abused which would never ever be case just want some help for us and dont want to know not interested

One step at a time lovey, book an appointment to speak to your GP then fill out housing form. You really will feel much better and able to cope with the right medication (if needed).
Try and eat as well as you can, it makes such a difference to moods/ anxiety. Step Change and Christians Against Poverty are both good organisations to get some support from as regards managing money worries. Sending you much love, I really hope things get better for you

https://www.afso.org.uk/parents/

Are you in touch with Autism Family Support Oxfordshire? They may be able help with support techniques for your son and additional support for you in engaging with social services and ensuring he gets all the support he can. They also run support groups for parents which might be if interest and help you build a community to support you?

OP what help is it that you need/want - we can direct you to groups that are public ally available in your area.

in terms of housing, y

Would appreciate someone with more knowledge answering this, but the OP has an 18 year old daughter. As she's legally an adult would the council consider her in any council list application or would she have to apply for her own property/find her own housing?

May not be true but I remember reading something that adult children aren't taken into account on your application, so could OP be given a 2 bedroom property eventually, for her and her son only?

Sorry posted too soon.

In terms of housing as you have a roof over your head and are not being served with a S21 you wouldn’t be placed on a higher banding as you don’t have a housing need.

Many private renters have the same fear however unfortunately thats with any LL even those going into council and housing association as most new applicants now start with an assured/shorthold tenancy (section 8)

How many bedrooms do you have?

in terms of your son , who is he schooling with? Is he under CAHMS? Hospital treatment etc…

Your housing issue is not your main focus currently and I think you need support to see that you’re focusing your energy and time in the wrong direction.

@FriendlyNeighbourhoodAccountant the daughter would still be considered in most housing applications as she is still in full time education.

Have you also seen your doctor to ask for support for your mental health?

Have you been in contact with any mental health groups? - google mental health support in your area and you will be able to contact groups, there is even some good home talking support groups, where you speak to counsellors on the phone.

Thank you. Once the daughter finished college I assume this would change?

There's SO much building going on in Oxfordshire at the moment so plenty of HA homes coming up. You have nothing to lose getting on the list.

Lots accept the village location houses then try to swap.

Does your 8 year old get DLA?

Were you living somewhere else a year ago? Why did you move?

Are you claiming everything you're entitled to?

@FriendlyNeighbourhoodAccountant *Thank you. Once the daughter finished college I assume this would change?

No, as it would then be based on household income, so if the daughter got a job she would have to contribute to the rent/council tax etc.

Anyone who qualifies can go on the list but you won't get anywhere as they'll consider you adequately housed. I was on it for 14 years before I got somewhere and that was housing association, not council. They told me outright that if I had a roof over my head, no matter how unsuitable, I would never get council housing. There's too many people and not enough housing unfortunately.