Newly diagnosed, husband not asked a thing about it

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Hey, I am trying to judge if I am being silly or not for feeling upset.
I have been having tests for a couple of months and last week was diagnosed with endometriosis and adenmyosis. This is along side an anteriour and posterior prolapse that they have also found and discovering I am pretty anemic ( this all answers why I have been feeling pretty crap)…..
So I will be having a prolapse repair and a laparoscopy/ possible hysterectomy in the next few months.
I am not normally a moaner, I pull my weight with the house and kids, work full time, never take time off sick ( just setting the context that this isn't a case of oh here we go again with your moaning about being ill)

My husband has not asked me one thing about it, we had a conversation after the appointment and that was it. He hasn't asked how I'm feeling, if I'm ok, nothing. I whatappex him a couple of tictoks about it just to sort of prompt him maybe and he saw them but nothing back.
We normally have what I would consider a decent relationship so this has left me feeling a bit sad and tearful at the lack of care.
So am I being unreasonable to feel this way or do I just need to put my big girl pants on?

How is he void of empathy? Man has just booked his wife a holiday.

DH has never bought me flowers in his life. He’s a totally equal parent, including the mental load (remembers to buy birthday gifts for parties when I don’t). If I was sick he would do EVERYTHING and more. But I doubt he would have a conversation with me about it unless I specifically asked him to. But I did have a semi serious illness once and he researched the crap out of treatment options (he’s a physician and we are in the US) and advocated for me really well. No flowers or massages but he cooked, cleaned and made sure I got the best treatment.

And no he doesn’t moan when he’s sick.

I hope OP can have the conversation she needs to have with her DH but this really doesn’t sound like this is a man who is about to abandon his wife because she’s sick.

Bless, that’s a great update. You can talk to him about what you need on your break, but at least there has been a reaction and you now know it’s not indifference to your feelings.