Looking at "insta worthy" homes gets me down..

[JackSpratski]

I try so hard to keep my house nice.. but it's just, not. I don't have a hallway, just a tiny porch. No big bifold doors, no kitchen island. Walls that the plaster crumbles just by looking at it. A garage you can barely walk in as we have no storage space.

Looking at all these insta houses (the one I'm looking at at the moment is the haddon home.. they're usually working mums too.. and their houses are immaculate. I don't know how they do it.
Anyone else feel this way?

Just had a peek, that might be some people's idea of a perfect home but to me it looks sterile and odd. No character at all! Like pp has said, home to me is not like this AT ALL.

The vast majority of people in the world don't post lots of pictures of their houses (children, dogs, clothes, make-up, hair, dinner, garden, holidays, car etc) on Instagram because they're too busy getting on with real life. Nobody's life is Insta-perfect all the time. A few people make a living from having a part of their life on SM.

I’m not sure slagging off this home really is having rhe effect folks think it is. It reads a bit oddly.

the reason it’s not having the effect is because the op thinks it’s way better than her home, and she would like these things. Whether others want it themselves or not isn’t relevant. She wants more than she has,

it’s better to encourage her to either stop looking, or start to think about how she can make positive changes to her own home if she is unhappy with it.

But this is how most marketing works - make people feel bad, like they need improvement in some way and if they buy the product then they’ll be just like that perfect woman in the advert. TV ads for face cream/shampoo etc are the most obvious examples but most ads are a version of this, just maybe not as noticeable.

Money. If you have plenty of money you can have a home like these. I am not sure why you follow or look at this stuff. I don't have loads of cash so have a rather scruffy house because I can't afford to spend loads on it. It is what it is. I don't torture myself looking at what I can't have.

Just looked at the Haddon Home and it looks like a house that has just been tidied up for photos. Obviously not how anyone actually lives day to day. Don't let it get you down, OP💁

But they don’t make you feel bad, or they don’t me or anyone I know. It’s aspirational, advertising is designed to make the product look good, so,uou want it, it isn’t to make you feel bad?

Instructive to realise not everyone thinks that house is nice? (I say that as someone who is living in a semi-renovated ruin with a view of bags of cement.)

Just had a Quick Look at the haddon home. The picture of the kitchen island shows red brick new(ish) estate houses crammed in overlooking the garden. Nope. Not something I’d feel any envy over.

And “work hard play hard” on the way. Nope. Wall writing is so naff. Again, can’t work up any envy! Also, as someone who has moved loads, the pressure to have a tidy house all the time is not my cup of tea.

On the wall. Not the way.

So stop looking. You’ll be glad you did.

Looking at "insta worthy" homes gets me down..

So get off Insta and stop looking

Quite a lot of us live on newbuild estates and like it, you know. There are plenty of cramped, damp Victorian houses with tiny gardens overlooked by other cramped, damp Victorian houses.

And “man cave” in a child’s bedroom 🫣😂

I like the external Christmas lights though!

But the rest looks like a furniture catalogue shoot. Weird.

@CarterBeatsTheDevil great! Lots of people clearly do love a new build
eatate. Lots don’t. For me it’s not insta house excitement fodder.

@Janetime I would say it is very similar. Make people feel bad about what they have so they think more stuff is what will make them happy. Invent things that become "problems", from body image to home decoration, then flog them the solution to the problem. Insecurity is a valuable thing to marketers ...

And "aspiration" is just another word for the gap between what you have and what they're selling that they're encouraging you to focus on. And feel bad enough about that you long to bridge that gap.

@Janetime
No they don’t make me feel bad, I’m happy with my lot and see the bragging/fakeness/marketing for what it is. Op is a case in point though, influencers show off their ‘perfect’ lives/houses/hair/outfits and it makes people feel that their house/clothes/whatever are inferior by comparison. So followers buy the stuff they’re flogging to try and get a piece of their happiness.

I know an influencer with a makeup page and a house page. The house is a mess, she just uses old pictures and keeps recycling them. She also is a huge fan of filters.

Exactly

There are tons of normal houses on Instagram as well

These are people that make a career out of showing off their homes, they're not doing that plus a full time job. And they probably still have a mountain of crap just out of shot.

I get the envy, but maybe you could use these accounts to get some realistic ideas that could help make your home more cosy? Maybe not bifold doors but you could choose a more affordable project, possibly some better storage. Or just accept being real and imperfect and doing your best to get by, instead of aspiring to live like you're in a magazine photoshoot. Be proud of what you've achieved by having your own home and how much you work at making it a good place to be. Real life is messy, embrace it! I imagine being an influencer must be rather soul-destroying actually.

Don't look at them. Problem solved.

YABU to be a grown woman getting upset about instagram. If it makes you feel that way then unfollow or delete the app

Nobody is asking you to look so why do it if you know this is the effect it will have on you

YABU. I don't follow Inst because its so fake. I have no interest in what celebrities have bought, or what the latest greatest thing in.

I buy what I want, in colours I like, when I need it.

Anyone I know who has a perfect house, either works part time or has a cleaner. I don't know anyone with DC and a full time job that keeps a show home style house without help/money.