My husband 37M and I 30F separated a couple of months ago because of a range of behaviours I couldn't tolerate anymore.
One of those behaviours where him texting random women on insta and Facebook.
He was telling me that he has changed and that he wants me back and I told him I don't trust you as you have done this many times.
He said that he was doing it because I am a very masculine women as I know how to use a combi drill and do manly jobs in the house like install furniture ,landscape garden ,lay wooden flooring etc.
I have been doing these the past year before the separation because we bought a old house and I wanted to help and put the skills I had into work.
I need to note that I also used to do the housework and the cooking as well.
I told him that I would rather prefer to think of myself as a capable woman and not masculine as my appearance is that of a woman but during the works I let myself go because of exhaustion.
So he says that any man I meet in the future will think the same for me and that really upset me because I don't want to change who I am but I can't help thinking if he is right ?
I told him any future man that wants to be with me should appreciate me for this quality and accept me as I am but then I started having these doubts as I wouldn't know the men's perspective into this.