Is it OK if I sell a gift my child doesn't use?

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My mother bought DS a toni box 2 years ago he never listens to it he preferes to be read to. On top if that the characters are so expensive for only one story. I was thinking to sell the box and just put the money in his savings or buy him something he'd actually use, but I feel guilty!! Should I talk to my mother first or just sell it and hope she doesnt notice its gone? For reference my mother is NOT the most reasonable person.

How old is your son?

Almost 4.

Personally I wouldn't sell a gift, but I would give them to charity. Never had to with something that expensive though, I would probably keep it and try again a few times. If in 12-18 months he still has no interest in it, then maybe.

I guess it would depend on how likely your mother is to notice.
If she very seldom visits, then I'd go for it.

I mean once it’s yours, you can do what you like.

I am always selling things they have grown out of, sometimes they are Xmas/birthday presents. You can’t keep things forever.

If something in my house hasn’t been used for 2 years then it will probably have to go. I can’t stand clutter.

She's probably planning to buy him some more characters for it as gifts so you'll need to tell her.

I’d sell it. My kids wouldn’t use a toni box either. They seem pretty pointless to me and by 4 he’s getting to the age where they’ve outgrown them anyway. A gift is a gift to do what you want with

I don't see anything wrong with that, provided the money goes to your son (which it sounds like it would, either in savings or something else he'd enjoy).

If I think about how I'd feel if I'd given the gift, I wouldn't mind. I've given a gift to be enjoyed, not kept gathering dust because I bought the wrong thing and no one wanted to fix it.

I’d sell it. It’s fine to sell it if you do put the money in an account for your child or buy something they will use with the money.

Presents should come without strings attached

I’d store it and sell it on when he’s ‘ outgrown it’ in a year or two

Sell it.
Would she really care?
Be honest with her "he doesn't use it".

How many toppers do you have for it? Has she brought more toppers for subsequent birthdays / Christmases?

Sell it. Or maybe ask a friend to so it isn’t obviously you selling it if you mum sees the ad.

No point keeping something that isn’t used, regardless if it is a gift or not. May as well have the money in lo bank and the space for things you do use.

I agree. I almost got one but between online podcasts, audio books from the library the Toni seemed expensive and limited compared to the other audio options we had.

I think you're going to have to tell your mum so she doesn't buy any more figures for him. But if something has not been used in 2 years it doesn't make sense to keep it.

Sell it. I don’t sell things personally but I often “re-gift” things my kids have been given if I know my children won’t like. For example my son was given a football and kit and I just know he’s not into it. And I recently gave a load of toys to our local childminder - some new and barely played with.

It might be worth giving it a bit more time, but I guess if you aren't buying the figures then perhaps not. Mine got into his Yoto only recently and now uses every day for half hour before bed while he winds down (then still has books from us) and he is 4.5. We thought he never would and it was also a gift when he was 2! I'm a member of the Yoto club now which does 2 cards a month for £9.99 and delivery included, does tonies actually do anything like that where they aren't so pricey? If so you could have a chat with him if he wants to pick some and he may be more invested. If not, with the price I've seen of the Tonies on Amazon I think it's too much to buy them 'in case' he gets into it!

Sell it. Don't ask her for permission.

If you think she might buy figures for it, you could just tell her he doesn't use it and please could she get XYZ instead - or if that would be a difficult conversation, you could just sell the figures too.

Not IME - we get one from the library every so often, my 5yo is more into it now than he has been previously. It's better once they actually have the attention span/understanding to follow a story without you pointing at the pictures etc, which he's only recently really "got".

I’d 100% sell it if he has definitely outgrown it and you have no intention of keeping it for another child etc.

we have 2 boys under 3 and if I didn’t sell or donate what they have outgrown we wouldn’t have room to swing a cat (and we have 2 of those as well 😂). I only keep things from family members or us that are sentimental, like first teddies or knitted cardigans etc. A Tonie’s box isn’t sentimental and I’m pretty sure you’ll get something for it, especially if you have quite a few characters as well. I’d look on Vinted to check current resell value. Anything I sell of the boys just goes towards new clothes or toys for them.

I asked my brother to buy one for my 2.5 year old as a joint Christmas and birthday present for him and his 1 year old brother. My 2.5 year old uses it every night so I’m hoping by the time my 1 year old is the same age it will get passed on to him before I then eventually sell it or regift to a friend.

if your mum was to bring it up ever I’d just ask her what she has kept of yours when you were 4 years old 😝 on a serious note though, you have nothing to feel guilty of so honestly don’t worry x

This is what I'm worried about she's not the most reasonable person.

He has 5 he tries to use the cars as cars I got him a gruffalo one becuase he loves those stories but he wants the books to read and look at.

The Toni box has a thing called the 'Today' with tonies podcast-style show (daily updated with fun, jokes, challenges and facts for kids aged 4+) and some toppers are specifically designed for 6+.
I mean, my DC prefers to be read to but the Toni box is great for times that isn't possible and, as they get older, the independence of choosing a background sound whilst they are in their room etc. seems to increase.
I'd give it a year or two.

You can buy the characters second hand on vinted and marketplace they're still around a tenner a piece.

DNephew users Toni. I’d sell or give to charity and buy something he likes but as pp says tell DM (maybe give to charity) so she doesn’t buy more.