to be fed up with people who seem to just go on a topic to stir it up

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it is happening quite a bit in SN at the moment.
It is lovely when people come and post who are not living with sn. but we keep getting "trolls" and people who just stir. just seems very odd to me.

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alittleone2 do post
the stirrers are few and far between. there are enough "proper" posters to keep it sane

Well i was involved quiye heavily in a discussion two of these posters were involved in.

One was a total fucktard. the other seemed to have a fluid opinion based solely on the fact that he might bump into the tpoic of discussion one day.

What they had posted was out of order but it is only offensive if you actually care what they think.
i don't.

It did concern me sligjhtly that one who claims to be a foster carer of significant experiance would post comments that they did, but sadly there will always be some that are drawn to foster care because the pay is so good. (and to genuine wonderfull FC's i know that there is no pay, just expenses for your charges)

but at the end of the day, when they post in thier ighnorant and bullish manner, just ignore whatever it is that they have written. pretent you canot even see it.
It will frustrate them that they cannot play the game.

Roastlamb - jog

funny I was talking to my db about this and he said the same. ignore...but very hard when it is a subject so close to your heart.

MAMAZON how did it go at court?

hmm well it was good and bad.
he has had contact suspended again. (good)

but the expert Pysch that saw Ds has written a pretty disturbing report. he basicly says that due to his ASD he is unable to fully comprehend what he saw whilst i was with xp. the violance that he witnessed has seriously screwed him up.

unless he has prolonged and extensive therapy, to include xp (bad) then he will end up a serious danger to women.

sadly the court have arranged for 3 intensive family therapy sessions where xp has to sit and talk to ds about what he witnessed. he will have to tell him that what he did was wrong and to talk through any feelings ds has.

WTF!!!!!

he is fookin autistic with a developmental age of a 3 year old. how on earth is Ds going to gain anything from that?
all that will happen is it will drag up all the memories he has, make him more agressive and cause no end of damage.

Yes i agree that in the long term this is a good excercise but it needs carefull and considered planning. it will need to have a seruious amount of fall out protection like ongoing councelling and extra support at school.
noen of which is happening.

to be honest i go through waves of intense guilt and then anger.
as if he doesn't have enough to conetned with he now has all this.

oh god that is so shit. what would happen if both you and your X refused?

we would be in contempt of court, Ds would be made a ward of court as its what an expert is saying is necessary. he would have the treatment anyway.

not that xp would refuse anyway. he is too stupid to fully understand the ramifications of what this will do to DS.

that is sad. sorry you have to go through this

thanks.

Its shit. im just waiting for the appointment for the first session.

I have demanded that me and xp see teh DR first before i take Ds along. as i want xp to be clear about what he is to saya nd do before he is allowed to open his mouth near ds.

I am hoping the dr will realise what total nutjob the xp is and say that he wouldn't be suitable to take part in thsi whole "treatment" and call is off.

Jesus Mamazon. What a nightmare. Is the expert Psych remotely knowledgeable about ASDs?

sounds horrendous mamazon. hope they arrange something more appropriate for DS.

It's Dr Blincow at the Priory in Hove.
he is pretty shit hot and despite it being utterly depressing it is probably the most accurate report that has ever been written about DS.

I think that long term what he has suggested is a good idea.

BUT there are no long term support plans. it will take at least 12-18 months of work with ds to help him sort all this through in his head (if he ever does)
and there is just no help being offered.

I have spoken to our Pead who is just as concerned about this as me, has suggested we make use of CAMHS but i imagine all of us over on SN know how much of a chocolate teapot they are.

anyway, sorry to Hijack the thread.

I Haven't heard of the priory.
where is it(nosey emotion)

Its a private Clinic. Its the outpatients section of the one all the stars go to for rehab.

It is on Sackville gardens, right by the sea front.

oh hove actually