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Original poster

To get all rubbish from neighbours side of shared garden and move it out of sight

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Maymoo99 · 02/02/2024 19:57

Hi, i live in a flat (block of four flats, within a two story block, two entrances in front and two on back, front gardens for front entrances) and the two front gardens are for the use of tenants who use the two front entrances. Our entrances are in the middle of the building and the gardens either side. The gardens are fenced off on the perimeter but once we come through our entrance gate they are open plan (paved patio with garden either side) but NOT shared.

I keep our garden spotless, keep it sweeped, no litter laying around and bins kept out of way, but for the past few weeks rubbish has been building up in the neighbours side (cardboard boxes, a bin tipped on its side with contents out, rugs, food containers etc), walking past this every time i enter and leave was really annoying me as it was disgusting to look at and i have a little one so want to use the garden now that days are getting longer etc.

This evening i have been out and moved all their waste round to the side of the property in a neat pile, out of sight. Picked up all litter and binned it.

Have i acted in haste and BU?

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pd339 · 02/02/2024 20:12

If the gardens aren’t shared have you not just trespassed and moved stuff that has nothing to do with you? I’d be livid if my neighbour did that.

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Maymoo99 · 02/02/2024 20:16

@pd339 fair enough, but when the rubbish is 7-8 feet away from my door and consists of shitty puppy pads and shitty rugs then it does start to have an effect when your little one has to walk past it everyday. I don’t care if they are livid as they haven’t bothered to be neighbourly anyway and i would rather not be friendly with scruffs. And by the way i am not a snooty person

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Maymoo99 · 02/02/2024 20:18

I actually think i have gone a nice way about it! I could of been a cunt and reported to the LA as it’s a health hazard but i don’t like doing that sort of thing

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bumtrumpet · 02/02/2024 20:19

Report to environmental health

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Maymoo99 · 02/02/2024 20:22

@bumtrumpet i have considered but i really really want to refrain from that just yet, if it continues i will as it’s not acceptable

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Sprinkles211 · 03/02/2024 08:35

You've now either started a war or they will expect you to clean up after them from now on. It really should be reported if outside is like that the inside will be too and bring with it a whole net set of problems that could then cause enviromental issues with the other flats.

Marblessolveeverything · 03/02/2024 08:41

Do you know the person because this could literally start war. Why didn't you ask or offer ? You went into their property which can bring out the worst in people.

Given their lack of decency to not leave rubbish exposed in a mess I don't hold our much hope of this going well.

pd339 · 03/02/2024 08:57

So, OP, if the neighbour's rubbish was behind a fence but you could see it from your upstairs window would you climb the fence and move it then?

pd339 · 03/02/2024 08:58

bumtrumpet · 02/02/2024 20:19

Report to environmental health

I bet any money we're talking about one or two things, and that OP is just a drama-lama.

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Maymoo99 · 03/02/2024 09:43

I love how everyone is trying to come at me like i’ve committed a crime! I share a gate with this person which leads to our entrances which are next to each other with gardens either side. I have to walk past heaps of shit everyday and put up with it blowing on to my side constantly. Why should i give a a damn when they clearly have no regard for me or my LO leaving dog shit everywhere

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Maymoo99 · 03/02/2024 09:44

@Marblessolveeverything i have actually been knocking for a few days, and also knocked when i had someone collecting some waste i needed to get rid of. But no answer and i don’t know how else to communicate

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Maymoo99 · 03/02/2024 09:46

@pd339 yes one or two heaps of dog shit amongst other things ;)

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Seeline · 03/02/2024 09:47

You have committed a crime - trespass (OK not strictly a criminal offense, but you have entered another person's property without permission and interfered with their belongings).

Fizzadora · 03/02/2024 09:51

I'm on your side OP. I don't give a fuck about those who say you have trespassed and might start a war etc. What are you supposed to do, just ignore it. Put a note through. Tell them what you have done this time and if it happens again you will be reporting them to environmental health. Every single time. Dirty, selfish minging twats.

Anywherebuthere · 03/02/2024 09:53

Maymoo99 · 02/02/2024 20:16

@pd339 fair enough, but when the rubbish is 7-8 feet away from my door and consists of shitty puppy pads and shitty rugs then it does start to have an effect when your little one has to walk past it everyday. I don’t care if they are livid as they haven’t bothered to be neighbourly anyway and i would rather not be friendly with scruffs. And by the way i am not a snooty person

You are coming acrosd as snooty and judgemental.

You could have knocked on their door and had a friendly word, maybe asked if they need help to deal with it in case they are struggling for some reason. Thats what decent neighbours do.

You have no right to trespass into their area.

Marblessolveeverything · 03/02/2024 09:57

@Maymoo99 I don't disagree with the outcome but given the horrendous stories of things escalating I would be very cautious.

People have been hounded by neighbours for a lot less. I hope there is no escalation. I am very grateful for my neighbours we all seem to be functioning humans.

Footyfandango · 03/02/2024 10:06

I would feel as frustrated and angry as you OP.
However I think you might have been better reporting this to environmental health, or your management company. The reason being you would be given anonymity. My concern would be as others have said you may have started a war.
I think people that are as sloppy as this could possibly be unreasonable, and if you are paying a service charge, then this sort of issue is for the management company to resolve. You should not have to resolve it

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Maymoo99 · 03/02/2024 10:19

well if they start to bother me or “start a war” they get reported as they are clearly antisocial anyway

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countvoncount · 03/02/2024 10:31

Have i acted in haste and BU?

Even though a whole bunch have said yes, you should have simply approached them.... you are agreeing with yourself that you're right, and now coming across as a bit of a snoot.
Why bother posting?

DeeLusional · 03/02/2024 10:33

Are the flats rented or owned? Council or private? Is the garden (officially) shared or is the space in front of each flat private to that flat? Pointless commenting practically without knowing this but morally, no OP is not being unreasonable.

Ponoka7 · 03/02/2024 10:45

You or your child shouldn't to walk passed piles of shit to get to your front door. As usual posters ignore that you have knocked. Report from now on. If they could drag the stuff outside, they could put it in binbags. It's going to be swarming with flies and attracting rats within weeks.

Marblessolveeverything · 03/02/2024 11:10

@Maymoo99 I suggest you read one of the dozens of threads on here where people's lives are being made hell.

The Councils don't have the resources or procedures to sort them. I sincerely hope this doesn't escalate as there are some horrible people out there.

MrsSkylerWhite · 03/02/2024 11:14

I’m amazed that you’re getting a hard time. I’d move it too, it’s a health hazard.

A thought, though. You say you’ve had no reply when you’ve knocked. Do you know who the neighbour is? Do you think they’re ok?

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 03/02/2024 11:16

Good for you - with neighbours like this you’ve got to make your position clear and stick to it!

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Maymoo99 · 03/02/2024 13:30

If anything i hope they notice and get slightly crabby about it, it may make them rethink there choices!

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