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To expect my 3 year old not to cover me in shit every day?

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Coveredinshit · 02/02/2024 16:34

I’m posting in desperation and also because I just need to share and vent.

Every time I go to clear up poo DS won’t stand still, wriggles around laughing uproariously so I end up with shit on me.

It is REALLY getting to me, and I’m fed up.

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vodkaredbullgirl · 02/02/2024 16:40

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Charlie2121 · 02/02/2024 16:42

Get him to shit in the toilet. Problem solved.

NotObligedToArgueWithStrangers · 02/02/2024 16:43

Oh I really don't miss this stage! Covered in bodily fluids daily, if it's not poo it's snot, dribble or vomit. Grim. Virtual hug, sounds like you need one xx

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Coveredinshit · 02/02/2024 16:43

Charlie2121 · 02/02/2024 16:42

Get him to shit in the toilet. Problem solved.

Believe me, I’ve been trying Sad

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return2sender · 02/02/2024 16:50

Scoop the poo from the potty or nappy and put it in the toilet so he knows where it should go.

Nchanged89 · 02/02/2024 16:52

Yeah ok

PhoenixStarbeamer · 02/02/2024 16:54

How disgusting. Glad mine didn't do this. Are you firm with him when he does it? Sounds awful for you. I'd have probably told mine if he does that I'm not changing him.

KreedKafer · 02/02/2024 16:57

So what do you do when your kid laughs while covering you in shit? Aren't there any consequences for behaving like this? Pretty sure if I had a child who was still doing this at three years old, I wouldn't be applying gentle parenting and empathetic negotiation, that's for sure.

ClematisRock · 02/02/2024 16:57

What's with all the poo posts ?

Icannoteven · 02/02/2024 16:57

Assuming he doesn’t have any disabilities, he really should be toilet trained by now.

If he does have disabilities, you may get better advice on the SEN board. Have you tried rewarding him for keeping still? Involving him in the process of cleaning himself?

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Coveredinshit · 02/02/2024 17:02

I’m not a troll. Have been trying to toilet train for a while but no luck with poo . Some success with wee bit still v unreliable.

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exitviathegiftshop · 02/02/2024 17:16

Is he definitely laughing at you? manic laughing can be a reaction to sensory overload, worse with tiredness (which is what I've realised is happening when my child is laughing and violently kicking me while I'm trying to get him into a nappy at bedtime, the crosser I get the more he laughs but I realised that he's not having fun. Often if I ask if he wants a cuddle he'll say yes and be suddenly sad). Obvs not going to want to cuddle with the poo everywhere but could try reacting like he's upset and see if it calms the situation.

exitviathegiftshop · 02/02/2024 17:20

Being firm and having consequences increases the sensory overload for mine and accelerates us towards a meltdown.

Gowlett · 02/02/2024 17:21

Some kids move a lot. Mine does. Especially when asked not to move! Just sounds like an active little fella! Can you wipe straight away with kitchen towel. Or get a nappy on if you know he’s ready to go? My DS sometimes goes on the potty, sometimes the loo, sometimes a nappy. Try to get to get the bulk of the poo gone as quicker than he can wriggle!

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Coveredinshit · 02/02/2024 17:22

Yeah he probably is laughing through nerves. I’ve calmed down a bit now. But dear lord I wish he’d poo in the toilet!

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 02/02/2024 17:23

Could you try a star chart, @Coveredinshit? Every nappy change where he behaves gets him a star, and a certain number of stars will earn him a treat - and maybe really badly behaved nappy changes could mean losing a star.

exitviathegiftshop · 02/02/2024 17:26

if it's a pattern use bribes until it's done. 2 chocolate buttons for every poo that he does in the toilet. 1 chocolate button for every time he lets you clean him up without a fuss.
works for us to break patterns of behaviour.

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Coveredinshit · 02/02/2024 17:27

He isn’t actually wearing nappies although I probably should go back to them. I think he just gets so daft and probably embarrassed/ stressed but I’m fed up of it!

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Coveredinshit · 02/02/2024 17:27

@exitviathegiftshop lol we really are a bit past that.

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cestlavielife · 02/02/2024 17:28

Stick him in warm shower every time
Tell him no shower needed after a poo if he poos in toilet

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Coveredinshit · 02/02/2024 17:29

He loves the shower so I’m wary of that, it ‘rewards’ it. Plus, it’s not very practical when out and about.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 02/02/2024 17:33

@Coveredinshit - I honestly think a bit of bribery (whether a star chart or a chocolate button after every good nappy change) is a good way to go. My boys are all adults now, but bribery worked on them long past the age of three, I promise.

exitviathegiftshop · 02/02/2024 17:36

past that in what way?

mine is older and still develops patterns where a specific thing is a trigger to get into the manic/hyper mode where me getting cross just accelerates us towards a full on meltdown. spotting the trigger and derailing it with something nice avoids the path and after a week or so I have found that the association is gone and can go back to not bribing.

cestlavielife · 02/02/2024 17:39

Coveredinshit · 02/02/2024 17:29

He loves the shower so I’m wary of that, it ‘rewards’ it. Plus, it’s not very practical when out and about.

Make it a cool shower with no words spoken

SleepingStandingUp · 02/02/2024 17:40

So he's not in nappies, but he's pooing in his pants regularly? And then when you try to clean up the mess he's buggering about so you end up in a worse mess?

Simple answer.

Nappies.